How do you make love to a woman?

Answer 1

First of all youneed to be aware of your trenendoud responsibility. When a girl loses her virginity it is the most important night of her life. It's the night when she learns the deep and spiritual fulfllment she gets by giving pleasure to her partner.

Feminism has led to a lot of sex-role confusion. Forget equal pay, forget the glass ceiling at work, a girl's primary right is to be made love to properly on her first night. Her transition to womanhood is something she must never forget.

Many lesbians became so because of disappointing or unpleasant experiences with men who don't know what to do. So its up to you to deliver.

Sex is about giving and about selflessness, so first of all, you must take an honest look at yourself. You definitely shouldn't be a virgin yourself - it's not fair on her. Deflowering a virgin means you need a mixture of tenderness and skill and confidence, and you can't acquire those on the big night.

So if necessary get some experience, and discuss the matter openly amd honestly with your girlfriend. She is saving herself you you and will understand (women don't confuse sex with love). This honesty applies even if you've had some experience. Ask yourself how good you really are, how long you can keep your erection? how many times can you orgasm? can you bring a girl to tears of pleasure? If you don't think you pass the test, again discusses it with her about how to improve your skilset so you're ready for her.

Pick your time carefully and give yourself plenty of time together - don't choose a time when you're both tired, you need to spend time together first to relax her. Where will you do it, her place or yours ? (hers is better as she'll feel safer in her own bed).

So have a relaxing evening first, send out for food, she should have say a glass of wine but not more. Do the scented candles and soft music, this is a prelude to something wonderful so don't try to shortcut it. Like many girls, she probably wears jeans, but you'll want to have her change into a nice skirt for the evening. It shows more respect for you and she will love how it enhances her sense of femininity and vulnerability.

You need her to understand that you know that she's nervous and perhaps a little scared, so you'l lreassure her that you'll be kind and gentle to her. But you need to exude confidence - she needs you to make the running. Resist the temptation to ask her what she wants; she doesn't know and she expects you to.

Kind gestures are important. You'll certainly want tp bring her a big bunch of flowers. If it's a cold night remember to make sure she has a hot water bottle. You don't want her to get into a freezing cold bed. Then send her to bed first, she needs to get warm and comfortable, but most of all she needs time on her own - perhaps half hour - to get her thoughts in order.

When you join her it fine to put the lights out, she's probably very self conscious about her body. Then you take it slowly. You need to cuddle her and help her to relax. It's time to fondle her gently until she's well lubricated. Don't forget her breasts, they are very sensitive and you can give her enormous pleasure. All the time - and allow at least 30 minutes for foreplay - you'll be kissing her and telling her how beautiful she is. Don't let her make the running, and don't ask her - you're in charge and it's up to you to decide when she's really ready.

Positions then. This isn't the time for anything complicated. The missionary position with you on top is hugely popular but it had the disadvantage that it doesn't leave your hands free for her breasts. Having her sit astride you gets round that but makes it harder for you to take control. A lot of girls don't like rear entry positions, but in fact perhaps the best is like this. Have her kneel facing her away from you, you come close behind pull her onto you and take her from behind while your hands control her breast.

What ever position you choose, take it gently and slowly. Lubricate yourself first - but definitely don't use a condom. Symbolism is important to a girl and she has the right to have the full experience of love making - not an attenuated, pared down version. Obviously you need to ensure that she has taken the appropriate precautions.

Even when well lubricated you take it very gently and slowly. If she asks you to stop, you stop. It you need to break her hymen it will hurt and bleed a bit but not more. When you've done that and let her savour the moment, you've made her into a woman and no one else can ever do that for her.

Even then you need to continue gently and slowly - remember there's no hurry. Long slow thrusts are the order of the day. Her ability to climax depends mainly on your skill and technique which why it is important that you can keep your erection up without climaxing too soon. Don't forget her breasts either.

By now you should know that she is enjoying what you are doing to her. She might be panting or gasping, or even sobbing. If she's not, just give her more time. When she clearly is enjoying herself, if she tells you to stop, paradoxically, you carry on, you are in charge of what she needs and by now her body is telling you that she doesn't really mean it. Kiss her tenderly, stoke her, and gently talk to her while you are working her towards her very first orgasm. Stopping so close would a terrible betrayal of her needs.

Many virgins never orgasm on their first time. Bit if you know what you are doing, and exude confidence, she probably will, and she will be so grateful to you as you pump your load into her. A girl really get to know herelf through her lovemaking, and You will have given her something she will remember for the rest of her life.

Answer 2

Making love is not the same thing as having sex. To make love, you both should be in love with each other, and you should remember it is not just about the sex, but the other person. Anyone can have sex, even alone, but it takes the right people who are in the right frame of mind to be able to actually make love.

So be really good to her. Maybe wine and dine her by candlelight and listen to music that heightens the mood, like jazz and certain classical. Then as the mood progresses, maybe dance with her, then cuddle, and then get into foreplay. Then once you get into bed, take your time and be attentive to her. It isn't about rushing an orgasm, but making sure she receives her full pleasure too.

Answer 3

You can't make a girl love you.If she loves you she loves you.And if she doesn't,oh well.You can't force someone to love you.

Answer 4

the way you want to but just use protection!

Answer 5

You put your lips against hers.