How do you tell your boyfriend that he has gotten lazy in bed without hurting his feelings because you almost always initiate?

'If you feel that your boyfriend has gotten lazy in bed, it may be a hard subject to bring up. It is important to be gentle with the subject, so you don't bruise your boyfriends ego. Explaining how you feel and what you want from him in bed, may help him become less lazy.' Honesty is very important in relationships. It is when people avoid talking about the issues that the real problems begin. Things will mount up in such cases and often end in explosive arguments. In solving the present problem, you should also look at yourself. Have you changed in any way that may have lessened your boyfriend's interest in you? Do you take him for granted? Interest in sex often wanes as the relationships go on for a long time, especially if people never do anything exciting and new.