How does one get over feelings of betrayal and stupidity 4 months after a very acrimonious breakup where you found out that your boyfriend cheated on you after saying he loved and wanted to marry you?

Answer 1

You need to see this in a different light. If your boyfriend cheated on you and it truly is over for you two, then you need to see your ex as "not worth your time and sad thoughts." If you still have feelings for him and you suspect he does, get with him and talk it out.

Really though, you don't get over feelings, you heal. Time is the best answer. In the mean time, keep busy with anything you can. Do NOT allow your thoughts to wander toward your past, they will only make you feel depressed. Death of a relationship is like a person dying. You grieve, you heal.

AnswerI will tell you speaking from experience its hard but you can do it. My ex used to tell me we were gonna get married have kids, have a great life blah blah. My ex cheated on me and I caught him. He lied to me all the time always accused me of cheating and it was him the whole time. I ended the relationship by walking out and never looking back!! It was so hard to do I cried and cried and at first and thought no one would ever want me but than I thought he is not worth my tears, a man that can make me cry and hurt me so much. He still tells some of our mutual friends to this day to tell me he loves me and he wishes he could have me back. Every relationship he had after me was short and he was unhappy. Honestly I can say I was the best thing that ever happened to him and he ruined it. I did love him with all my heart but I knew I did not deserve that, if we did try again I knew I would never trust him. He was not worth the time! I am currently engaged to a wonderful man, happy, in love, treated better than I ever thought I could be, *and we have been together for four years now ;). Even to this day it is hard 6 years later, to see my ex my first love, but when I do I just say hello and think I am so much better than that!! Best advice surround yourself with positive things and people and you will see you are better than that.