How much time should wait before one sibling gets married after the other?

Answer 1

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer to this question...unless you're in the one week or under category :) I heard of one couple that showed up to their sibling's wedding having gotten married the night before by a justice of the peace on a whim. The sibling's wedding was a terrible place for their surprise announcement!

Ideally, you could get away with a fast 2nd wedding if: the family is laid back, the siblings are brothers or brother/sister, no one cares who has the "best" wedding, friends and family are wealthy & not busy, and you live in different cities.

If you're sisters, making a social statement with your wedding, living in the same city, with many of the same friends, have less wealthy friends and relatives trying to do their part for both couples, and/or depending on getting great wedding gifts, you may want to wait four to six months.

Seriously though, think through the following factors:

Do you want your ceremony to be compared to your siblings'?

Who is paying for the ceremony? When can the involved parties afford to do it again?

How does the recently married couple feel about it?

Can you afford to honor your sibling the way you'd like to at their wedding - by participating with proper attire, a nice gift, etc. and then afford your wedding close after?

What's the relationship between the siblings, and what kind of family dynamics are involved...are they uptight & traditional? Is it still an "its my turn, stop stealing my spotlight" type relationship? Might want to wait until after the wedding to even get engaged if so.

Will you be hosting wedding events at the same time, or will you be able to wait until after their wedding to announce your date/send your invites/have showers & bach. parties?

Do you live in the same town and/or have the same friends? Are you going to confuse/frustrate people who would be invited by obligation (parents' coworkers, say)?

If you will have the same people in your wedding party, can they afford to fulfill their obligations - tux, dress, hair, parties - that close together? Weddings are expensive to the people in them.

Can distant family & friends afford - both financially and in vacation time - to come back for another event?

Do gifts matter? If the dates are close together, you may both get less in gifts/money from wedding attenders.

Which couple got engaged first? If the sibling who got engaged first is the one waiting until after the other's wedding...you might not need to wait as long. You've been pretty understanding already.

Overall, it should probably be a family discussion. It would be really nice if both couples went out to eat and talked it over calmly and like the mature adults you now are. It might be the first of many grown up conversations between siblings, but it will be good practice!

Answer 2

The amount of time between the marriages of siblings is a personal decision and can vary depending on individual circumstances. There is no set rule or specific timeframe that should be followed. It is important to consider the preferences and feelings of all parties involved and communicate openly to ensure everyone is comfortable and supportive of the timing.