How should children be brought up and raised?

Answer 1

Raising a child from birth do adulthood is no easy task. When you look at it all at once it is overwhelmingly daunting. With children, much like anything else, it is important to take it one day at a time. The most important things are to always, always, always love your children no matter what. Unconditional love is what will always keep your children close to you. In everything that you do with, for, or to your children, do it out of love for them. You should love your children more than you love yourselves. You will have to, because raising children requires great sacrifice from the parents, be it financial sacrifices, offerings of vast amounts of time, relinquishment of freedom from responsibility or drastically changing your life plans. But the best part about those sacrifices is that they are easy to make when you love your children.

In terms of taking care of an infant, much like any other parenting subject, there is a wealth of information that you can obtain by reading books and doing some research online, but here we can give only a glimpse of what is necessary to raise a healthy baby. I would suggest taking a look at the websites in the related links section to get a good start.

There is a lot of debate about vaccines out there. In all things it is important to take your child's health into consideration and weigh the costs and benefits of everything that you do medically to your baby. (as an example, it may not be so necessary to vaccine against an STD immediately after birth if the mother and father do not have STDs. Such a heavy vaccine given to such a small child could be overwhelming to the child's system.) Many women will advise that breast feeding is far better for the baby than any formula that you can purchase, and it doesn't cost anything. Beyond that it's the standard "feed, burp, play, change, nap, and repeat" routine until your infant becomes a toddler.

Do not be afraid to discipline your children. But as you do so, be sure that they understand why they are receiving disciplinary action, and that even though you have to discipline them, you still love them. Never discipline out of anger or without cause, but always out of love and care for your children and their future.

Give as much as you can to your children. Invest in their futures and in their education. And if something cannot be given, explain that you wish you could but you simply cannot give them everything. They will more than likely understand, especially if they are a bit older.

When they do get older, teach them as much as you can about life, responsibility, and consequences. Don't be afraid to talk to your older children about sex, drugs and other vices that could get them into serious trouble. Talk with your older children about the mistakes you made in life and how it affected you.

Always make time for your children. No matter how busy you get in your job or other responsibilities, always spend time with them and love them unconditionally. Teach them good values and morals. Discipline when necessary but never out of anger.

Do this and you, and your children, will go far.

More insight:

The above is excellent advice, so I only have a little to add.

Don't give your children everything they want, or they won't appreciate any thing they have. Give them every thing they need, but only some of what they want.

Teach them by example. Don't go by the old "Do as I say, not as I do" adage.

Praise them when they do well. Positive reinforcement is the best way to teach and encourage your child to want to do well. For every harsh or unfair criticism they get, it takes many, many more praises to undo the damage the harsh and unfair criticisms cause.

Don't scream and yell at them, raising your voice serves no purpose other than making you feel better for the moment. And while it may make you feel better, it can be devestating and quite destructive to a child's self esteem. If you are angry at them you can still get your message through by speaking in a calm, yet firm voice. You have to remember they are children, and they are going to mess up from time to time, just as adults do.

Don't belittle or deliberately humiliate them. The things that are said and done to a child can literally stay with them for the rest of their life. If they do something stupid, it's ok to call the behavior stupid, but not the child.

Don't chastize them in front of their friends or in public places. Kids have it hard enough trying to fit in with other kids as it is, without being publicly humiliated.

Never hesitate to tell them, "I'm sorry" when you realize you were wrong. Children need to realize parents are people too, and make mistakes, just as every one else does.

Give them responsibilties around the house. Children learn the meaning of team work, responsibility, and get a sense of being part of the better good when they do participate in the daily chores of the household. Just don't over do it when assigning the chores, and make sure the chores are age appropriate.

Learn to pick your battles. Don't make an issue of every little thing they do that annoys you, or their childhood will be one long battle. Tackle the big issues, but let the little ones go.

Teach them the value of a dollar, and start early while they are young.

Don't make them eat foods you know they don't like. Think of a food that you really dislike - would you want someone to force you to eat it? And don't make them "clean their plate" if they really aren't that hungry. Making them eat when they aren't hungry really won't help one single child overseas, unlike what our parents told us when we were children.

However, when you have prepared a new dish they've never tasted before and they don't want to even try it, I strongly suggest you have them try just one bite. Then, if they don't like it, don't make them eat it. You would be surprised at how often they realize they do like it, after all. And if they never tried it, they would have never found out they actually like it. It also teaches them not to be so quick to judge something based on how it looks.

Be consistent; children really do want rules and boundaries. Otherwise, they get confused and don't know what is expected of them.

Never let a day go by without saying "I love you" to your child.

Answer

Remember that you are doing the best that you can, with what you have, where you are. The time goes quickly! For example, here's an idea of what it takes for a new baby:

4 to 5 feedings, 1 hour each 5 hours

8-10 diapers, 10 minutes each 1.3 hour

2-3 clothing changes, baby .5 hour

1 bath, baby .75

2 loads laundry, daily, not folded .5

This is 8 hours and YOU have not bathed, eaten or slept. ;o)

You love your child, but remember that their behavior, empathy and integrity will be what will make their lives happy and successful. Model and expect that treatment in return as you raise them. All of you will be happier.

Don't hurry. Plan your morning so no one is stressed. Bathe and dress before they wake so you can get them off to school on time and with good feelings. Sign papers, gather clothing and shoes, put homework and books in bag the night before.

If you need to discipline, take your time in deciding the consequences. This is important as they grow older. You have many choices; pick the one you can carry out in full. Grounding didn't work for me--extra chores (raking leaves, scrubbing floors, washing cars) did.

Ask for help, but don't over use the privilege. Teachers, neighbors and friends will be there for you...sometimes level headed advice is all you need, but in a pinch they may really make it possible. Again, planning will help your life run more smoothly.

Answer 2

One article says:

To get along well as adults, young ones need to learn the proper way to greet visitors, to answer the telephone, and to eat a meal with others. They should be helped to understand why they ought to hold doors for people, show kindness to the elderly and sick, and offer to help those carrying heavy packages. They need to understand the importance of sincerely saying "please," "thank you," "you are welcome," "may I help you?," and "I am sorry." The best way to train children to be courteous is by setting a good example. Thus, children will be able to make friends and will maintain peace with others. They will be well-equipped to work with employers and coworkers. Moreover, children who are courteous, mannerly, and upright will bring their parents joy and satisfaction.

another answer:They should riase there children with disiple but not to much and let the child do what she wants to almost whenever, but remian close.

Answer 3

you must treat your child well and teach them manners and to be polite.