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How should you make eye contact with a girl you like?

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2011-04-27 02:41:50

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I asked one woman friend of mine "why did you go out with him?"

and she replied: "because when I looked at him he kept eye contact

with me."

When I recall the very successful people I have had the pleasure

of working for in the corporate world, I remember that they all

maintained eye contact while speaking to me. When you watch

somebody successful being interviewed on TV, like Scott McNealy of

Sun, you notice that they never look away from their interviewer's

eyes and they rarely blink.

You are approaching a chick in the hall as you walk towards each

other. When should you look at her? (Her eyes, silly. If you look

at anything else, it's over.) I have tried all combinations. If I

wait until the last instant, I either find she is not looking, or,

if she is looking, she quickly looks away. If I look at her and she

looks at me and I look away, then she never looks again. Then I

tried something bold and decide I will look at her eyes the entire

time. To my amazement, she gazes like a deer into headlights. Never

breaks eye contact. So I decide to try this little experiment.

Recently I spent a week attending meetings in one of our

buildings filled with educated successful professional women in

their 20's and 30's. Most are definitely doable. Some are gorgeous.

Some are married, some are not. I spent my time between meetings

trying this: I would pick a different floor and I would walk down

each hall, walking just slightly to the right of center. When I saw

a woman walking towards me, I maintained looking at her eyes. Only

the heavy ones did not keep looking. But for all the others,

including the gorgeous ones, they maintained eye contact the entire

time. I never blinked. They never blinked. They broke eye contact

only when we were just about next to each other. I broke eye

contact only after she did. What really amazed me was that by the

time we passed, almost every chick had broken a smile. Some even

said "Hi." I did not smile or say Hi until they first did.

These halls were not long. Each woman was no farther than 30

feet away when I first saw her. But what if it had been a very long

hall? How far down the hall should I start looking at her eyes? I

certainly don't want to scare her. I look straight ahead, and then

when she is about 30 feet away, I start looking into her eyes.

I then went to the mall a few times to try the experiment there.

Most did not look at all. Of those who did look, most only looked

for a second. Only about a third locked on. Of those, about half

broke a smile or said Hi. A couple of them where so moved that they

almost tripped.

Do you have to be walking? I tried the experiment while sitting.

Almost none maintained eye contact. Do they have to be walking?

While I was walking I would look at any chicks who were sitting.

The results were the same as if we were both walking.

If I was approaching two chicks, and looked from one to the

other, I lost them both. So, if I am in such a situation, I lock

onto one and I don't change my mind.

If I smiled or said Hi, while she was still looking at me, but

before she smiled or said Hi, it would usually result in my loosing

her. On rare instances did it make her smile and say Hi with

enthusiasm. So, I never smile or say Hi until she first does so,

and I smile if she smiles and say Hi if she says Hi.

If she did not lock eye contact with me, I would go ahead and

say Hi when she got close to me. In many instances she would then

enthusiastically turn to me and smile and say Hi.

I would also look at chicks who were with a man if he was not

looking in my general direction. I was surprised at the number of

times that she would lock on and actually smile.

I noticed that the better I dressed, or the sexier I dressed,

the better I did. I noticed that the women who looked where better

dressed then those who did not.

Eye contact in a bar is an entire science in itself. When done

correctly, it can be lethal.

Real PLAYERS never stare. They lock eye contact. There is a

difference between staring and locking eye contact. They are two

totally different things.

When you look at a woman, here is what you do. Lock eye contact

with her. Don't blink. Don't look at her friend. Pick one eye and

don't let go. You only get one chance at this. Don't give up. Don't

smile. Don't say anything. You are telling her that you are

interested in her and you are not intimidated by her. Then leave it

up to her. You will be amazed at the staring capability that women


She is thinking "Who is this guy to be so bold as to continue

looking at me while I look at him? Now this is interesting. He is

different." She knows that if she lets go now, she will loose you.

She will go one of two ways. If she wants to loose you, she will

break eye contact and look away. If she does not want to loose you,

but is instead intrigued by what you are doing, she knows that she

has to eventually end the stare down and she will have to make the

move. She will have to either smile or say Hi.

If she smiles, you smile. If she says Hi, you say Hi. Don't say

Hello. Then you reward her and make your move.

Of course, you don't always have to wait for eye contact to make

your move.

And trust me I know.

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