if he wont let you out of the relationship you need to get help by a friend or family, or even the police.
Be a man
No, she is not a controlling person. He is the one who will not break off the relationship. It sounds more like he's using you for "something on the side" while he stays with her for reasons unknown. If anyone is controlling it is him controlling you, at least for the last 3 years.
You must be strong about it and make the break. If you allow her - or anyone else - to control a relationship by putting you on a guilt trip it will never be good. Forever after she will use guilt as a method of controlling you in everything.
You can either tell him that his to controlling... or just dump him. :)
Well you can to talk to him about it and explain how it's detrimental to the relationship. Sometimes people don't know that they are controlling. If that doesn't work, then break up.
Because they are controlling and guilty themselves! Stay away from them neither person in a relationship should control neither one!
the guy
Some could be controlling, every one is different. Controlling others rob them of their own free will. Try to become an equal partner in the relationship. This would be best for all involved.
It is not necessarily the case that older men are more controlling than younger men. You will delude yourself if you think that the only controlling men are the young ones. So, don't use age as a gauge for whether or not men are controlling. If you've been with a controlling man, you will probably be able to recgonize whether or not the man you are with is controlling. Don't be paranoid, but don't allow yourself to remain in a relationship with another controlling man. Just don't think that the only controlling men are the older ones. A control-based relationship is sick, and has nothing to do with age. Only a love-based relationship will last, because it nutures. If your partner is an abusive one, he or she has to deal with his sense of insecurity, and fear. He is emotionally sick. He needs professional help. What I suspect might be "common" is for most relationships with a marked aged gap to come to an end owing to junior member of the couple evolving to a point where there is a desire to see what is beyond the "parental" relationship dynamic that they've been in. As for "controlling" relationships, I think that depends on the individual dynamics of each relationship: some may be controlling while other relationships of that kind are perhaps more of a security blanket. After living out the "daddy" relationship dynamics with a given partner, one would think that the security blanket relationship (or whatever the needs that were met) would have been worked through and a partner closer to one's own age would, in most cases, be on the cards.
Anything can break up a relationship. What will break up a relationship depends on the two people involved.
Whether the woman is an illegal alien or not, the man is married. You should back off and break off the relationship with him.
Not usually. Girls usually want someone who cares and some freedom when it comes to a relationship. If you are to controlling in the relationship, you are probally going to lose her.