I am having an affair and i don't feel guilty about it WHAT SHOULD i do?

Answer 1

What do you feel you should do? What do want for yourself in another year, two years, five years down the road? Keeping the current status quo, being fully with your affair partner or being fully in your primary relationship? You enjoy the benefits you get from your lover and also the benefits you get from your primary relationship, so you need to ask yourself why you are questioning your own actions now. You wouldn't be here if you weren't.

You are in the typical affair denial 'bubble'; you're relying on your string of lies to keep your bases covered and keep you from getting busted. You're reaping the majority of benefits, so you believe (erroneously) that you have the majority of control over the situation.

You're relying on the person you're cheating with to be discreet, to not demand a full commitment, to not get tired of your games and leave the affair. You're relying on your partner not to have suspicions, to not snoop and find evidence of your affair, to not be the one to leave the relationship. No cheater ever thinks they will be found out. But what about all the consequences you can't control? A possible pregnancy, STI, the affair partner becoming a stalker or threatening to tell your partner or spouse if you attempt to end the affair? How are you going to deal then?

It's a moot point if you're guilty over the affair you've engineered or not; what matters is at some point, the crap will hit the fan for you if you continue with the current situation.