I can't understand why my boyfriend told me he didn't want family life anymore and left with no explanation?

Answer 1

I moved in with a divorced woman 27 and 2 girls (3 and 5)
Me then still single at 30 and flirting about. .

It staled after a year. It put me off for good. Why?

I am now 68. Still single. NOT gay. No children. Not lonely or sad or psychotic. No regrets.

I have come to certain conclusions over the years. From a male point of view of course.

Women truly are control freaks. IT IS THEIR NATURE. They move in very very slowly ("salami slices") Tiny things at first so you give way to please her of course. Then it is a little more and so on.
in the end you cant do this cant do that. (And who is the REAL boss? Her mother!!)
No sex if she disapproves etc. The weaker men turn into YES men, and then they lose ALL respect for you.

Power is an aphrodisiac. They cannot stop themselves. And of course, it is "not for them" but the children. there is no way out - except the pub with your mates
Much more fun than soaps.

Children around? You cannot read a book, watch TV, go out alone. Need a babysitter if out together. restrictions on time. You turn into a policeman. Stop doing this that etc etc etc etc etc etc. And the STRESS BUILDS UP. (More drinking)

On top of that, like my girlfriend, (who suggested marriage on the first night, would you believe) (No salami slices there!) wives have the power - if they wish - to take everything OFF you, LEGALLY. House, possessions, children and money "for the children" (Of course) although they eat at Granny's, and she spends the money on shoes.

A Polish friend, divorced a few years ago, she still wants money off him. The child is 19 yrs. fit and ok for work. Yet when he was in hospital and needed money, she put her boyfriend on the line and threatened him to stop harassing her! Unbelievable.

They can have outside affairs and you could never guess.

I cannot be bitter. I have never been married. I have no axe to grind.
I can say though that FREEDOM is an aphrodisiac!! I am 68 and people say OH I thought you were about 50 - 55. (Honest) So that may say something.

This minute i am in the net cafe. All is quiet. People into their interests.
Then a women comes in - kids - noise - baby crying - I cringe -. then she shouting down the phone. The kid is climbing over the seats and banging - Peace and tranquillity and CONCENTRATION has been spluttered out.

No Honey. Not in a million years.

Your boyfriend probably did not know how to ARTICULATE his reasons, but had a GUT feeling. (As I did)

Do not worry, some one will come along.

Happy days!!