I dumped my narcissist one month ago. How will he be feeling?

Answer 1

The N will replace you (the narcisstic supply) immediately (probably by sunset). He will then attempt to contact you any way possible (either positively or negatively) and beg you to come back...explaining how it's your fault he had to find someone else...i.e...he is lonely, cannot stand to be alone and if only you hadn't left him he wouldn't have been forced to "find" someone else. The N will not give up trying to get you back (by any means possible) until you decide that you will have zero contact with him. He will eventually get the picture that you are gone and you aren't coming back. "How will he be feeling?" He will be feeling his usual selfish, empty, uncaring, un-empathetic NOTHING (by nothing I mean not the types of feelings normal humans possess)...The true narcissist feels nothing. Not during the relationship and certainly not after. The only thing he will be feeling is DESPERATE to replace the narcissistic supply that was removed by your departure. That's it. Nothing else. If you are hoping he is feeling hurt and lonely...you are mistaken. Yes, he will feel lonely...but not lonely in the sense you and I feel lonely. He feels lonely with or without love and support...the N is a lonely, self involved, sorry excuse of a human being. I have empathy for the N, but truely, they are not like you and I. They haven't the capacity to love. That is sad. But do not give-in to feelings of empathy for the narcissist. That is what they bank on to fill their narcissistic supply. Unless you wish to be the never ending supply for a vessel which cannot be filled...please save yourself and NEVER EVER look back!