I have been with my Jehovah's Witness boyfriend for 2 years and I love him. I understand his beliefs but do not believe them myself I dont know what to do because I dont want us to have problems?

Answer 1

If you marry him with different beliefs, you will have difficulties. My husband isn't a Christian and I am and we have fought over different things due to my religion. It has been hard but we have made it to 16 years of marriage.

I'm not discriminate but becareful of Jehovah's witness beliefs, especially when it comes to childbirth. You have to iron all this stuff out before you go further. Don't let him force his believes on you and if he does then there is only one thing to do.

FURTHERJehovah's Witnesses are repeatedly admonished to avoid getting involved with those who are not in the faith. This is in obedience to the scriptures that state not to become "unevenly yoked." (2 Corinthians 6:14)

I think it is important to understand a very important thing. Saying you are a Jehovah's Witness, having Jehovah's Witness parents, and even going to the Kingdom Hall, or studying with Jehovah's Witnesses does not make somene a Jehovah's Witness. Jehovah's Witnesses are just that, active Witnesses of Jehovah. That is what it means to be a Jehovah's Witness, so unless your boyfriend is baptised as a JW and activively engaged in the public preaching work that JW's do, it's doubtful that he is actually a Jehovah's Witness. If he were active in the faith, it is doubtful that he would have gotten involved with someone outside the faith to begin with.

My parents, my grandparents, and one set of my great-grand parents are/were JW's, but I did not become a JW until I had grown up, gotten married, decided to study The Bible, come to the concluson that it is the truth, got baptised, and became an active preacher of the Good News in 1988 at the age of 23. Until then, no matter what I said, I was not really a Jehovah's Witness.

All that being said, if you are looking forward to a real relationship with this person, it would be wise to actually sit down and have a real talk with him to determine how strong his convictions really are.

In the previous answer, there was some mention of a difference in beliefs being a huge issue. That is correct, however, the mention of our beliefs on childbirth are a bit confusing to me, since we have no special beliefs about childbirth. When my wife had our daughter, we had her in a real hospital. We used a real doctor, at least he claimed he was and charged us enough for it. When she wanted epideryl to ease the pain...we gave her epideryl.

Keep in mind something else that is important about the beliefes of Jehovah's Witnesses: You will hear people all around you claiming that Jehovah's Witnesses believe this, or Jehovahs' Witnesses believe that...claiming that they know what we believe. They claim that their mother's neighbor's best friend's uncle was a Jehovah's Witness, or that they have been to a education class on Jehovah's Witnesses, and Jehovah's Witnesses believe this or that. That fact is, most usually they have no idea what we believe. The only place to get the accurate information about what we believe is from Jehovah's Witnesses themselves. That further stresses the need to sit down with him and find out what his convictions and beliefes are, not what someone else says his beliefs are...but what he himself says they are. The fact that he has been involved with someone outside the faith also makes me wonder how much he knows about the beliefs of Jehovah's Witnesses as well.

If he really does have strong convictions about his attachment to the faith of Jehovah's Witnesses, I strongly urge to have a study with Jehovah's Witnessses to find out what his thinking process is. This will not make you a Jehovah's Witness, nor will you be expected to participate or support Jehovah's Witnesses in any way. Simply studying will cost you nothing but your time, and it will give you insight as to what to expect from your future spouse. Believe me, if he is a Jehovah's Witness, or plans to become a Jehovah's Witness, it will affect him deeply. We do not consider our religion to be simply a religion. The first century christains viewed their faith as a whole way of life, their very existence, the essence of their whole identity, and so do we. It will affect you, so you need to find out what it's all about so that you can make a wise decision.

If he is really a true Jehovahs witness then no offence darlin but he wouldn't even be with you in the first place. This is because Jehovahs witnesses strongly advise that they only date each other ie other Jehovah's witnesses. Your boyfriend if he was a true witness would of been in alot of trouble for goin out with you as you are what they would call 'worldly' sorry to shatter your dreams but its the truth. laters.