I secretly find fat girls attracting but ashamed of it when Im around your friends how do you tell then and the girl Im dating that you dont find skinny girls sexually attracting?

Answer 1

Here's the thing. When you are younger, there is a lot of peer pressure to be conformist in all things, from clothes and cars and sports to, yes, sexuality.

Later on in life, people become freer to express themselves away from the social pressures of school and college. The fact is, being attracted to heavy women is a completely normal and actually very common thing. There are magazines about it, Web sites, clubs, etc. There is nothing unhealthy about this interest, any more than there is for someone to be attracted to redheads or to women with long necks or women with large butts. It's just one of the many, many configurations of normal sexuality.

The main thing is not to feel any guilt at all and whatsoever about this. The worst thing you can do is box your sexuality up with feelings of shame and guilt--no matter what other people say or do to tease you, etc.

If you are dating a skinny girl but you aren't attracted to her, there is no reason to tell her that you prefer heavier girls--but you probably should just break up with her.

When it comes to your friends, just be yourself. If you find a heavier girl attractive, you can either enjoy your attraction to her in private, or you can tell a close friend or two, "I actually think she's really hot." You may get some teasing and what-not, but I doubt it'll be any big deal.

The main thing is: after you break up with your current girlfriend, maybe you should start asking some heavier girls out!