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Borderline Sociopath, scary, vampires that suck your emotions dry. I can give you many more names but they would not be polite so this gives you an idea of what they are which is a whole lot trouble and heart ache for you if you are with one.
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Why a narcissist won't answer your questions?
I think it depends on the narcisst. My father a classic textbook type, acts interested and ask questions, feigning interest in you, most people if not all, are happy someone is interested and answer the questions. This is to get information on you and figure out vulnerabilities and then use them to hurt you, in the presnt and/or future. If someone especially a narcisst knows your vulnerabilities, it is a power push button of pain for the narcisstto use on the victim. Unfortunately, it also controls the victims by confusion. The narcisst seems like he cares, listens, asks questions, adds humor (humor is very disarming, so watch out when you laugh with a narcisst, you are more vulnerable thinking he has a sense of humor, you laugh together and he then knows he has you , as prey , more easily in his snare.) They, the narcisst, I think are better at telling jokes, (they then begin to repeat them) and not as good at wit, which is spontaneous humor i context of the moment, and truly involved humorous thinking, being funny, then just telling a joke. My father would ask questions, seem like he was interested, then make a negative hurtful comment of how much you are obsessed with that issue, after he just asked you dozens of questions! If you acted upset, confused, hurt, or made (any show of emotion) he would smile, like he played you, like a puppet, he has power over you. They really get off on causing pain and discord, but twist to so that they are not the cause of it. The best way to be around them (if you have to deal with them) is limited interaction and no emotion. Calm, cool, collected and no vulnerabilities or buttons to push evident. They will act out to find out where those buttons were. Because of my upbringing, I tend to find or they find me narcissts boyfriends. Propbably, others don't del with them, give up on them, but I have experience,but doesn't mean that I don't feel the pain they give. It's like being caught in a cycle of pin, disappointment, anger since a young age dealing with my parents, my father a narcisst and my mother a enabler, codependent, inverted narcisst. She learned you can't control the narcisst, the biggest crybaby of her children but you can control the children and tell them don't argue with Dad, let him do this or that, that was wrong,etc,etc. Years later, I found how how more true this was than I wanted to believe by what he was doing to others in the family and my mother did nothing for the sake of peace! Peace? On the outside, but the inside was filled with pain. My mother was heavily into self mutililation while being with my father, She picked gouges in her face, an attempt to cry out for help, but no one asked her why she did this, because she was isolated and had no friends. People that worked for them and they were a source of income, would never ask such things. I have an ex-boyffriend that trys to keep you hooked in and I am doing no contact. Texting is better for them. He seems interested and then no contact. It does come down to what type of behavior and mistreatment do I accept. After decades, I have had enough of the emotional pain, self doubt that has held me back in my life. A narcisst if you call their number cooly, they see you get it and don't like you suddenly instead of working out an issue with you. My father when he asked a question at a Thanksgiving Dinner to my brother and his wife. I observed the questions started off benign, humor added--which is always disarming, which gets you to trust the narcisst. Remember, humor is humor, laugh, but that doesn't mean the person is trustworthy or good. He then asked a question, once he had a flow of free flowing answers from them and they felt comfortable, a question that any answer would have been upsetting for the husband to hear. It was a set up, I saw my sister-in-law, naive to the situation, start to answer, and i intervened and said "What are you trying to do cause problems, I then took the question apart. He was quiet and you could sense the tension between us, he was not apolgetic, and he looked at me hateful and with disgust, which I am so used to it did not bother me. The other types, don't ask questions, as much as my father, but they may bring up stories about themselves, from the past, to feel like you are developing a sense of intimacy and appear to be good listeners at first. If you asked them, what did you say, afterwards, many don't pay attention to the full answer or contents. They listen to the parts that are upsetting, emotionally charged, those register because those are "power push button", where they can exert power and pain later on. Be guarded answering questions, because everything can and will be used against you. It is healthy too be defensive, on guard and somewhat paranoid around a narcisst. Turn their questions , into questions they have to answer. They will gladly talk about themselves, if it shows how talented, great or wonderful they are in some manner. A question that if they answer shows more who they are, you will see how their attitude will change. My father also knew their was conflict between my one brother and the other, so he always made it a point, to mention bad things about the other brother to get my brother to agree and comment further , and then the narcisst father would tell the other brother what the other had said. If when they talk, you realize anything you say negative about someone else, will be distorted, and amplified to the other person, to cause them to hate you. The narcissts stands by and watched, feeling powerful at the discord he watched that he created, but never involved in the fight. It's like creating a dog fight, not intervening, and watching it, smiling, thinking I caused that look at how powerful. Remember, you don't have to answer their questions, be on guard even withthe humorous, innocent questions, those might be the most revealing to the narcisst. Never think you are stronger, smarter, invulnerable, and too smart to fall into the narcissts trap. This will ensure that you do fall into their trap. If you are on guard every second, questioning , observing, you may have a slight chance.
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