You should be able to ask the judge who presided over the divorce, or if there is a caseworker assigned to the family, that would be a better place to start. * A sixteen-year-old does not have that right automatically. Legally, the father still has the right to his visitation time. If a father is emotionally or physically abusive, the mother or an attorney acting on behalf of the child may petition the court for a change in the custoday order. * No, minors are not allowed to make such decisions when there is a visitation order in place. Generally the law does not address issues of alledged emotional or verbal abuse as there is such a wide definition of such behavior. The custodial parent can petition for a change in the visitation rights of the non custodial parent, but rarely will visitation be suspended under the cited circumstances, however, supervised visitation might be an option.