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If you are shy how do you get someone to notice you?
November 06, 2007 12:35AM
Shy people, especially young people, may feel that they are at a disadvantage when it comes to getting the attention of others. There is a wide range of typical behaviors that are more or less acceptable, say in a school setting. There are also behaviors that are more extreme. Resorting to extremem behavior to gain attention is not a good idea because most young people act as though this type of thing is acceptable just because they don't want to be seen as the only one who doesn't. But generally, most young people are a lot alike. Often they just want to know how to act so that they will be accepted by their peers.
As they get older they will discover that those kids who were "cool" in the lower grades may not be so cool as they get older. Likewise, those shy kids often turn out to be popular because they are not the kind of person who resorts to extremes to get attention.
When they reach high school the same thing continues to happen and the kids who were cool just a few years before could be less popular because so many kids change and become much more attractive in how they dress and behave, especially in how act towards each other.
The best bet is to be well rounded and not just be one way or another. For instance, to be considered a jock can be looked at as less attractive by kids who tend to excel in academics. Kids tend to group one another according to a limited set of criteria, such as jock, nerd, egghead, etc. when there is a lot more to most people than outward appearance. You should get to know a person before grouping them in a way that may not actually apply. A person that associates with a wide range of personalities types is more likely to have a wide network of friends.