If you cheat on wife should you tell her?

Answer 1

That's always a tough one to answer, but usually it's best to not tell her. If you had an affair, and it's over, then what purpose will telling her serve? To ease your guilt? Don't cause her immeasurable pain and heartbreak just to try to ease your own guilt. This is something you will have to keep to yourself, and learn to forgive yourself for it, as well. Don't put the burden of forgiveness on her. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone deserves a second chance. If this was a one time affair, and not a way of life (as in having multiple affairs), then you need vow to yourself to never, ever cheat on her again, and stick to it. If, however, this has been a way of life, then you need to think long and hard about why you did this, and then go from there. But you have to be completely honest with yourself as to why you did this. If your wife has no idea that you cheated, and you truly believe she will never find out unless you tell her, then no, do not tell her. It will serve no purpose. Most people think they would want to know if their spouse cheated on them, but until they've actually been there, they don't know the pain it causes. No, don't tell her unless you're willing to hurt her terribly and willing to risk losing her. But never cheat on her again. If you feel you want to be with someone else, then separate from your wife first, then go for it. But as long as you and she are together, you owe it to her to be faithful from here on out.

Answer 2

It's true that honesty is the best policy. Many people would prefer their partner to be completely honest about everything and many people will forgive them for their wrongdoings.

If you recognize the mistake you made and can avoid making that same mistake again with no gratification or necessity in doing it again, as well as feel bad enough about what you did, then you really don't need to bring it up. However, if he ever asks you about it or if you had ever done such a thing, it is best to be honest. Keep in mind, though, that by waiting for him to bring it up, he may be angry that you did not tell him in the past (unless he asks you within a reasonable amount of time since the event occurred). If it hasn't been very long since it happen, say a week or less, you could tell him that you were trying to build up the courage to speak with him about it if you truly were.

This is more of a personal call based on how strong your relationship is with him. Just remember that relationships are built on trust and after telling him this understand his anger or hurt and the need for you to regain his trust, as well as the consequences for your actions that may include a separation.

Answer 3

As long as you have evidence that will back your story up, yes you should so he can tell you why he is not man enough to tell you that he wants to hurt you this way. Don't let him manipulate you