If your husband won't attend mass with you and your family is he still Catholic?

Answer 1

Really your husband only has to attend mass on Christmas and Easter, the 2 most important days in the Church, and has to attend reconciliation 1 time a year. - This is not Catholic teaching; The Church tells us we must attend Mass every Sunday. So if he is not attending mass anymore, he is must no longer believe the teachings of the Church. This is a pretty good sign that he has no desire to be Catholic any more.

Answer You did not elaborate what your husband's beliefs are. It must have something to do with that. And why force him?

Answer Assuming that he is Catholic and used to attend Mass with you it would seem that something specific may have caused him to question his faith. If this is so then perhaps you could gently suggest he speak to your priest about whatever troubles him. It is really up to him though, don't try and force him nor get the priest to drop round unexpectedly - you may simply make him dig his heels in further.

Answer If your husband was once a faithful Catholic, and is no longer attending Sunday Mass (which is breaking one of the rules of the Church, and is objectively a sin), then what he is now is a Catholic who is in trouble. No one likes to be nagged or have their personal business pried into, even by those they know love them, and nagging won't help in such a case. Your husband is an adult; he knows missing Mass on Sunday is a serious matter. The best thing you can do is invite him once each week, and ask him if there is anything he needs from you that would make it easier for him. If he says no, then best to drop it. Now all you can do is pray, pray, pray for him. And keep the prayers going up. And just in a casual, friendly way, keep inviting him once a week, as if you're inviting him to a friend's party: "Honey, we'd love to have you join us. No? OK. Fine. Bye, see you in awhile!" That's it. And off you go to Mass without him. Always make sure he knows he's welcome, though. But don't bring it up but once a week, just as you're getting ready. That way, he'll appreciate notbeing nagged, but he'll appreciate being invited.