Is explosive temper abusive

Answer 1

I'm going to say probably with an explanation. If someone has an explosive temperament and they use it as an excuse to be violent or even intimidating; they are being abusive. (If they weren't you wouldn't need to ask.)

An explosive temperament is nothing but an adult behaving badly, they throw their tantrums like a two year old when they don't get what they want. As adults it is our job to teach a two year old how to channel their frustrations appropriately; the adult with an explosive temper needs to learn how to channel their anger appropriately, not by blowing up, breaking/throwing things, yelling or being violent.

It doesn't get any better when you are in a relationship with an abuser, as matter of fact it usually escalates to violence - followed by an apology and an empty promise to never do it again. Until this person gets help and finds appropriate ways to deal with life's little disappointments and frustrations, she or he is a danger to you and to others.

Remember regardless what an abuser says to you, it is never the victims fault. Saying "if only you didn't make me angry" is a pathetic attempt to excuse their bad behavior. Don't buy into it, insist this person gets help or get yourself out of the picture.

Clinically speaking the behavior is marked by repeated episodes of aggressive, violent behavior in which the aggressor reacts completely out of proportion to the situation. Followed by remorse or regret.

Explosive tantrums or eruptions usually last 10 to 20 minutes, but they can can last much longer. They may appear in clusters or as isolated incidents depending on the triggers and stress levels of the abuser. Often they result in deliberate destruction of property and/or injuries.

As children, they may have exhibited severe temper tantrums and other behavioral problems, such as stealing and fire setting.

Group counseling sessions, focused on rage management, psychotherapy, meditation and relaxation techniques along with medication may be needed to control the behavior. Behavior modification may also help.