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Is it normal to hate yourself and idolize the woman with whom your boyfriend cheated on you?
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∙ 12y ago
Yes because you are hurt over this and have low self esteem. You idiolize this girl because she"stole him from you" ...that shes gorgeous,smart,fun personallity etc and that you don't have what she does. your just depressed and its normal. Half of us hate the woman and feel sickened by her ....the other half feel tormented physically and mentally by this woman and that shes so much better.
AnswerActually, as a person who has just recently experienced this I think its very normal, but only if its temporary! If you have recently found out you were cheated on and the person you love very much seems to suddenly be so smitten by another person that she has in a very short amount of time been successful at grasping his attention and taking it away from you...what you are feeling is definitely bound to happen. It is called denial! It is nothing more than the initial shock of the situation that your mind and heart must now adjust to. What you must tell yourself everyday until you are past this is that its absolutely NOT PERSONAL!!! Trust me, if you're with a man who loved you but cheated...HE WOULD'VE CHEATED ANYWAY...whether it was with you or some other girl. what he did is a product of who HE is not what YOU did or didn't do. When I was cheated on, I had to force myself to focus on the fact what he did was wrong. I did nothing wrong by not being what she is or not doing what she does. I was extremely shocked at the complete 360 u-turn he made when I had finally said "TO HELL WITH HIM" and very obviously moved on. At that point, not only did he no longer worship the ground the other girl walked on...he began to suffer more than I was suffering recently. In essence, try not to focus on what she's got that you don't have or what she's doing that you're not. A lot times the guy recognizes this and will play on it especially if he's now become the center of your attention. Kick his butt to the curb real quick even if it hurts like a son of a ...ch to do it...just try it and see what happens! AnswerNo, this is not normal thinking and I suggest you get counseling for this. You seem to be low on self esteem and you need to ask yourself why because those around you are using you and obviously you are very hurt over this.You hate yourself because you feel weak and you haven't gotten angry enough to express your inner feelings with either of these people. Quit making excuses for them. They both did wrong and you need to get this out of your system.
A cheat is a cheat, and why would you idolize someone that does this. There are just no excuses. If this woman fell in love with your boyfriend, both of them (or at least her) should have had the guts to tell you to your face. The simple answer here is she didn't care enough to do so and neither did your boyfriend. They are having a fine old time at your expense.
Get your dignity back and kick both these people to the curb! You deserve better!
Good luck Marcy
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∙ 12y ago
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