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Is it ok if a 17 year old and a 22 year old started dating?


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September 13, 2011 2:54AM

It depends on who thinks its OK and who doesn't. Believe it or not, the most important opinion for practical purposes belongs to the state you live in. Check the laws in your state for something called the age of consent. If 17 is below the age of consent in your area you need to see if your state allows the parents to give consent. If not, then it is definitely not OK. The 22 year old could go to jail for statutory rape if the relationship progressed to a sexual level.

For what its worth, I did have a relationship with a 17 year old when I was 22. I knew her parents well and we had their consent and blessing. She was very intelligent and mature for her age. She even moved in with me where we lived 2 years. However we refrained from sex till after she was 18. Even in that situation the age difference was difficult to deal with and was eventually the cause of our breakup. While she was mature for her age, she was not mature. Her friends were still in high school, mine were at work and the bar we went to after work. I felt like I was constantly teaching her about life but parts of it she wasn't allowed to or shouldn't experience yet. Eventually I felt more like a parrent to her than a boyfriend and I felt the need to be with someone my own age or older to help me advance and learn more about life.

I hope my story helps you make a decision.