Is it possible for a Narcissist to be an incredible unselfish noncritical lover?

Answer 1

Please realize that this answer is based only on personal experience. I am not a psychology expert or trained to counsel. That said, I can say, however, that I had an experience with an N which indicates that yes, they can APPEAR to be unselfish and noncritical. In the early days of our relationship, when he was evidently in "pursuit" mode, I could do no wrong. I was lovely, smart, amazingly wonderful, and deserved every consideration and wonderful thing imaginable. A few years later, when he had decided there was someone else who suited him better, I was threatened with divorce (which he later filed), told I was a rotten person in all ways, and was labeled an ungrateful witch (spell that with a "b")who had "used" him. I could go on...but you get the picture. I think it has to do with justifying their driving need to always appear to be a "good guy" and yet to always have what they want. This makes blaming others inevitable. In my experience, only time can reveal people's true motives. For an N, everything has to be about THEM. Be alert. ....from Georgette ==When they want something== yes when they feel they are losing control and or they are trying to reel you in.