Is it possible to fall in love with a man after he died?

Answer 1

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. You didn't say if the loss was your husband, wife, parent, child or a close relative so I am going to have to wing it for you and try to cover it all.

If it is your husband or wife, then you are rushing things a little. No matter who passed away they were in your life and you loved them so grieving is part of 'letting go' of that person and living with the imprints of memories they left behind for you. You will feel lost, lonely, depressed, perhaps angry and may cry for days to weeks because you have no control over what has happened. It happens to all of us at sometime or other. These are the symptoms of grieving and some may go through all of these symptoms and some may not:

• If the person was ill for a long while then there is a confusion between relief and sadness of the loss of that loved one. Relief because they will no longer have to suffer, but sadness because you will never see them again in physical form and are left with memories.
• Disbelief. This can happen when someone isn't meant to die such as an accident, a simple operation that has gone bad and causes of death for many other reasons. The death is so sudden that the person in despair can't grasp the fact their loved one is gone. It is most difficult when a child passes on before their parents.
• Crying for days to weeks.
• Questioning your own mortality and also the mortality of other loved ones close to you and an acute sense of fear that they too will die or even yourself.
• Not being able to concentrate because all you think of is that person.
• If a mate, every little thing in your apartment or home reminds you of them. Some people smell the person's clothes to feel close to them while others stare at videos of the person and the 'fun times and good memories.' Some will simply go to bed at night (the loneliest time of the whole day ... more time to think), with the person's picture beside their bed or often some people that grief will clutch the picture to them and drift off to sleep. Some people may even wear a bath robe of their loved one or a T-shirt or shirt if it was a male that passed on.
• Looking back on your relationship and wondering if you couldn't have done more for them. If you were there 100% (which I am sure you were) there was nothing more you could do. That normal relationships have their good/bad times and no one is perfect so one must rely on the good memories and not the bad ones.
• Some people of religious belief will blame God for taking their loved one away too soon.
• Most people continue on with their daily routine such as working, staying at home and raising any children or just staying home and doing the daily routines of cleaning house, etc., in a robotic fashion.
• Eventually anger will set in, subside and then this is the time to realize that to honor the person who has passed you must move ahead into the future. This does not mean you will ever forget your loved one.

I have had both parents pass away, plus several friends (some in their 20's) from everything from AIDS, suicide to diseases. It never gets easy, but I have come to realize that I am so blessed to have had those people in my life and they have left 'imprints' in my life to better myself. They helped me to be the person I am today. I know then that it's time to stop grieving and shying away from the reality of life and to pick up the torch and move on as they would want me too. Eventually you will be able to look at pictures of them or even videos and smile when you see your lost loved one and know that the grieving is over you will enjoy it and even smile or laugh at the antics of this person that is deceased. It will refresh you and not make you feel sadder.

If you don't go through the grieving process then you may not have healthy relationships in the future. There are programs for people who are grieving over lost loved ones and it's a great way to deal with your pain. You also have the option of speaking to a Minister, Pastor, Priest, or, a psychologist to express your pain and release it. Until you do that then you are not ready for a relationship.

Take it slow and easy and give yourself a little more time. Fill in the gaps with your friends and try to keep active. Even if you work or are just at home volunteer as that too helps. Keep busy!

I hope the above helps because it sure helped me. Mortality is a part of life and none of us know when our time is to come so I go by rule of thumb 'make friends with mortality' and realize that's all the more reason to jam in as much life as you can which includes slowing down and enjoying the beautiful things around you such as nature, family, relatives, children and even pets. To realize that we all must go through this.

Answer2: My condolences for your loss. Most professionals recommend that you do not make any hasty decions after the death of a loved one. Give yourself time to grieve and heal. The grief process is very different for every individual. You cannot rush it and don't let others try to rush you through it either. Grief is daid to be a necessary part of the healing process and of learning to adapt to the new situation. There is an empty space where before there was a living human. We need to adjust to life without that person. Grief may provide a necessary emotional relief. It is perfectly normal to cry and have feelins of sadness and loss. Repressing your grief can be harmful mentally, emotionally and physically, so crying may serve as an emotional release. Talk to family members or trusted friends about how you feel. Write your feelings down if you need to. Be patient with yourself and read a portion of God's word The Bible each day.

Answer 2

yes it is if you see his picture and love what you see basically.

Yes, Only If You Had Feelings For Him That Were Stong Enough.

Yes, you can certainly fall in love with someone who is dead. It's not like you think that you are going to meet them, you just like who they were when they were here.