Is it right for husband to get angry with you when you tell others about his affair with your friend?

Answer 1

A husband would get angry with you when you tell others about his affair with your friend simply because he sees it as a defamation of character. He doesn't want others, especially those who think highly of him to change their opinion because of his infidelity. But I believe he brought that on himself when he decided to be unfaithful. You can't expect to cheat and be found out and then not be called a cheater. The only thing is make sure you are telling others about this mishap to vent and heal. If you are telling others about his affair to assault his character or to be spiteful then stop because it takes too much energy. Doing this only shows a guy that leaving you or cheating on you was probably for the best. It sounds stupid, but it's true. Would you rather have your husband build up a hatred for you for getting back at him or would you rather leave this thing like a classy lady with your head held high and him realizing that you were a stand-up chick and that he messed up when he cheated on you? You won't have to defame him. He has already done it to himself. You have to look at the big picture here. Also, not everyone you tell about this affair is someone whom you can trust. Many people will take what you are telling them and use it against you, especially when it comes to love and relationships. I say get whatever it is you need to get out so that you can heal, but do it in a way that isn't defaming the guy and in the best way that you can heal.