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Is it wrong if you are 14 and you and your boyfriend want to have a baby?
It's not wrong. it's love! It is also a real challenge. LOL *Well, at 14 you can't even get married in most states. You have no ability to support or take care of a child. You can't rent a home, buy a car or establish credit. And what would your parents say? You are certainly not ready at 14 to have and care for a child. You are still one yourself physically. *It's not wrong to want anything. It would become wrong if you decided to actually have a baby at 14, though. First of all, everything the person said in the last post is true. You would be bringing a baby into the world that in no way are you capable of taking care of. You're not even able to take care of yourself, so who would take care of you both? Your boyfriend? That's doubtful. Chances are it would be your parents, and that's not fair to them, the baby, or you. Have you thought about how your life would change? I know a girl who got pregnant at 13 and had her baby at 14. She was no longer able to do the things she wanted to do, and her teachers treated her so much like dirt that she dropped out and finished high school at an adult learning center. That didn't make for much fun during her teenage years, and she would be the first person to tell you to wait until you are older to even have sex. Chances are the boyfriend you have now won't even be your boyfriend for more than a few months. The girl I know was madly in love with the baby's father, and he was in love with her, too. It didn't last, though, and relationships at 14 seldom do. So, there you would be: a mother tied down to a child, missing out on regular teenage activities and the boy would be off having fun with some other girl. It wouldn't make for much of a life for you, would it? I suggest you think very seriously about your desire to have a child at 14 and make the truly mature decision to grow up yourself before bringing another life into this world. Deb