Is spanking good

Answer 1

Not everyone considers spanking bad parenting.

The problem is, some parents tend to lean to heavily on spanking. They use it for every punishment, instead of the more extreme in fractions. Spanking also does not help a child understand why what they did was wrong, only that they were punished for it. If spanking is to be used, it should also be combined with talks with the child to help them understand the situation.

Some people are against spanking all together as they feel hitting their child in any way is wrong.

There are many types of parenting, and the best thing we can do is not to judge each other for trying to do our best. Just because we disagree, does not mean someone is a bad parent.

Of course, if it is obvious abuse, that is an entirely different issue.

Answer 2

Spanking teaches children that it's OK for big people to hit little people. Not a good thing to learn. Talks and time-outs work best. The important thing is to be consistent. Don't punish one time, then overlook the next, and both parents must be on the same page. *** I believe if spanking is used, it should be used in a limited way, meaning not to go crazy on someone. I think it would be a good punishment if it was done that way...Maybe. You should first tell that person to not do whatever it is. DON'T GET ON ME! I AM NOT A PSYCHOLOGIST!

Answer 3

It would be better if you could devise a system of punishment that doesn't involve physical abuse because it escalates the situation, upsets everyone- even you, and perpetuates ineffective behavior. Everyone gets angry during an episode of physical punishment and some people do not know when to stop.

It's better to take away toys, privileges, TV, social time with friends, or isolate her in her room for a certain period of time. Time-outs are especially helpful for very small children. You should be paying attention to determine which of those types of punishments she dislikes the most- and use it. It is important to be consistent and make certain you enforce whatever punishment you decide to impose.

It is also important to make certain your child understands what she did wrong and why she is being punished.

Answer 4

In the US, there is a huge divide between parenting ideas. Some parents believe in "spare the rod spoil the child". Other parents believe that even one purposeful, controlled slap is "abuse". The first group scoffs that a paddling given with love could ever be "abusive". The second group argues that no person should ever strike another person, especially an adult hitting a child. Parents who spank want corporal punishment reinstated in schools, while many anti-spankers would threaten to sue a school board, principal, or teacher who would dare lay a hand on a child. Believers in paddling say discipline backed up with a paddle works wonders to stop misbehavior and even the threat of the paddle reinstates order. Anti-paddlers say hitting only teaches kids to solve problems through physical violence. Spankers retort that no one is saying it is okay to abuse a child, as if they are being accused of being an abusive parent! And, parents who believe in using consequences, not paddling, say to a parent who spanks "Yes, you are abusing your child!"

The result of this debate is socially interesting. While years ago the paddle hung on the wall in plain view, used occasionally on a backside, but serving as a strong deterrent, now paddling has become a more secretive act and as a result, society cannot fully assess paddling's effects as being a form of child abuse or not. The topic retreats into the shadows, only occasionally popping up again for review and debate. How does this secretiveness help advocates decrease child abuse, which is the whole point of their argument? And how does secretiveness help parents who spank when they must constantly fear being called a child abuser? Worse, often kids yell "child abuse!" like yelling "fire!" in a crowded building where there is no fire. Kids have not learned more responsibility through this debate, but instead have learned they can manipulate just from using 'hot button' words when they don't like following the rules. On the other side, having kids yell "child abuse" who are not truly being "abused" dilutes the voices of children who are truly being beaten and bloodied during real abuse. How this debate will play out is difficult to predict, but adults better figure it out before we have generations of kids who scoff at adult authority and haughtily taunt, "You touch me one time and I'll yell child abuse so loud you won't know what hit you."

Answer 5

Spanking is never good for children. Some adults like to be spanked and this is part of a fetish they have to be used in a sexual way.