Is the other woman to blame for an affair?

Answer 1

This is a great question. People are pretty evenly divided on this one. Here's the way I see it: Is a hot fudge sundae with a cherry on top to blame for breaking someones diet? In other words, temptations are around us all the time; the trick to staying loyal in a relationship is simply to make the commitment to do so -- and then keep it.

Another view:

Is she? no she's not. I never been the other woman nor I will become one, even though the man I married betrayed me. But when it comes to the other woman, when our husband betrayed us, we always go for the other woman, what did she have that we don't have, but in reality, the other woman is not the problem, the problem is your husband's unfaithfulness, and she was one of the options that he chose. I am not depending the other woman's action but the only fault she did was she didn't say no to your husband. Even if she becomes part of the problem, she doesn't owe you nothing, it was your husband who have the affair with her, not you. Your husbands mistress did not make any vows to you, it was your husband who brought his mistress into your marriage, and put you in this situation. This woman doesn't know you except what your husband told her so she will feel bad and sorry for him and think how horrible you are towards your husband. You didn't put a gun into your husbands head so he can betrayed you, he did it without caring of what will happen if you find out.

A long time ago, I was in your shoes and I was very angry at my husband and the woman who stole his heart, but after I talked to the priest, it was him who told me that it wasn't the fault of the other woman, but my husband is. The man I married told me that he doesn't have anymore hopes with our marriage so what he did justify his reason. He was the one who approach this woman inside dating site and continued doing so because she is a very religious woman, and that was number one on his list when it comes to who is worthy of him. He was the one who made time so he can be with her as much as he can, the other woman didn't put a gun on his head so she can force him to come to him anytime she wanted to. It was my husband who had planned most of their relationship, not her.

He also mentioned that he did felt guilty the first time they slept together, but after the second time he don't have guilt. So you see its about the man who started it and not the woman who he approach. I will not tell you to forgive the other woman, but put your shoes on hers and maybe one day you will understand why..

keep it. Thanks for your question.