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Is there any way to get a verbally abusive partner to see what he does?
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∙ 15y ago
Well you can try to talk to that person (reasonably) when they are not angry of course. Telling them how the abuse makes you feel may have some bearing on how they treat you. If you have a partner that cares anything about you and respects your feelings then he or she needs to work on how they communicate their feelings to people without being disrespectful. If they don't care how it makes you feel then maybe you need to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship. Perhaps the person that you choose to spend your life with is not worthy of your time. Trying to make your abuser see your point of view and have empathy is a waste of time. Abuse is all about denial and distortion of reality and of language itself.
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How can one stop a narcissistic father from verbally abusing his four year old son?
That wouldn't be easy. If he is really an abuser (rather than someone who just loses his temper sometimes) then this would be incredibly difficult. He is verbally abusive in order to establish control. Try talking to your son and see how he is; see what effect this is having on him.
Your spouse is alcoholic and verbally abusive and you have asked for a separation and now he is threatening suicide what do you do?
Threatening with suicide to get you to do what he wants is just another kind of bullying. Go ahead with the separation, there's no reason for you to put up with an abusive, bullying and manipulative alcoholic.
How do you leave your abusive partner hen you know he wont let you take the kids?
You leave when he's not around WITH them. or See an attorney immediately and get a court order for temporary custody.
Will your verbally emotionally and sometimes physically abusive husband ever change?
Sure, he's likely to get worse. Things won't get better unless you make it happen. Either leave him or make him go with you for marriage counseling. See where it goes from there.
Why are black men so verbally abusive?
A part of the reason is that Black men don't see their words as verbally abusive. Why? The taunts and teasing involved in "capping" or "playing the dozens" involves quick wit and the ability to talk about someone in a stinging way that is still humorous and makes others laugh. Men often play these word games with other men and they all seem fine with it. However, when those words are turned upon women and said with the intent to bring a woman down, put her in her place, or make her feel small and insignificant, its not funny anymore. I believe the larger reason Black men are verbally abusive is their ongoing struggle with self esteem and feelings of powerlessness. Striking out with name calling, put downs, and words which attack the core of Black women's pride in their accomplishments looks education achievements and sexuality give these verbally abusive men a sense of power. What they are doing is putting others down to build themselves up. Such behavior may provide a temporary sense of satisfaction as he watches her face crumble in shame or humiliation, but in reality he is merely demonstrating how poorly he feels about himself. Finally, I think it is important to note that verbally abusive men come in all sizes, shapes and colors and are not limited to Black men. The issue is though that most women tend to date men of their own ethnicity, and therefore Black women (who interact primarily with Black men) are more likely to be verbally, physically or psychologically abused by a Black man moreso than any other race of man.
What should you do when you have been with a man that has been verbally abusive and physically abusive within a 9-year timeframe and you have 3 small children?
well if you feel that your not getting any where by talking and discusing your problems with each other then you need to get out of the situation and come to a compromise about visitation rights where the children are concerned because the childrens mental state cant be good if they see what goes on and your mental state can't be good either to be able to deal with your children on a day to day bases
Would you stay with an emotionally and verbally abusive wife of 10 years for the sake of being able to remain with your children?
no sweetie dump him if u truly love him let him vist 1nc and a while otherwise get a restraining order k
How do you leave an emotionally abusive family?
yes you should because verbally and emotionally abusing someone is wrong and the person that is receiving that doesn't deserve it...AnswerIf your husband is on any medications then look up the side effects on www.Google.com Type in the name of the drug. Sometimes people on medications can have varied personality changes. If this isn't the case then suggest that either he goes with you to some type of counseling or it's over! If he refuses to help himself then yes, it's time to leave. Life is too precious to waste over someone that is miserable, demanding, and verbally abusive. Remember, look up any meds your husband is on and it wouldn't hurt you to see your family doctor and see if there is any way the doctor could get your husband in for a so-called physical to see if there are any reasons for this behavior.
Is it reasonable that you not want sex for months after being verbally abused by husband?
yes, it is very reasonable. if a husband has been verbally abusing his wife, the wife should tell someone, perhaps see a counseler. you dont want it to go any further
Can get an answer from an abuser if you ask them reason for their abusive nature?
No, because if they are still being abusive, they see the world from another perspective. If you are expecting that this will happen or that you can convince someone that they are abusive, chances are that you won't see it happen. About all you can do is to call them on their behavior, saying how it makes you feel. A good book is Patricia Evan's The Abusive Relationship.
You have been in an abusive relationship and now with a lovely partner but you have cheated on him and in the past treated him bad by hitting him and having fits you love him whats wrong with me?
nothing is wrong with you. an abusive relationship will tweak your mind. if you feel somethng is wrong see a counselor. there are many of them out there. they will help you to understand what is going on with you. How long have you been apart from this abuser? what causes you to snap on this new one?
Do abusive men get more abusive with new relationships?
Men who are abusive remain abusive. If they move on to another woman they are charming, and a chameleon (meaning: they change their colors to suit their needs.) It's like the "spider and the fly." Abusive men are extremely crafty and will appear to be the nicest guy you've ever met until he has you right where he wants you. Usually abusive men will alienate the woman from her family and friends and move to another section of town or preferably another city. They want complete control. They can't cover all their tracks and here are a few hints: Although it may seem charming, a man that orders your meal without asking you what you would like to eat or let you make your own choice is a controlling man. The way he talks about other women. He could say something as innocent as, "See that woman over there .... she's fat and ugly, but you .. wow! You're a babe!" Most women will consider that a compliment, but if a guy really cares about you and is not in the market for controlling you he would only have eyes for you and never make such a remark as the example I just gave you. Always boasting and bragging about himself (you can bet 1/3 of it is the real truth.) Feels uncomfortable even after he meets your family and starts to prefer not coming to your parents house; not to go out with your friends or have some of your friends over. Usually abusive men are loners and may have the odd buddy around, but they are not usually popular. Don't get this confused with a shy guy. Over-whelms you with his own masculinity, yet seldom asks about your hopes, dreams and feelings. Marcy The thing is he will be still angry at the past partner about losing control. Therefore the new person gets this added onto the nightmare
