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How to stay friends with an ex lover who is an alcoholic?
Asked in Alcoholism
What can you do for a girl that lives with an alcoholic?
Try to get the alcoholic some help, if being an alcoholic is the problem then solve the problem, try to help the alcoholic. But there would need to be more information, are they in a relationship, roomates, old friends, family? Either way the problem is the alcohoism, why are you looking at helping "the girl", she isn't the one with the problem, help the one with the problem "the alcoholic". I assume the girl is a friend well to help your friend you need to help her roomate (the alcoholic she lives with). Your question should be what can you do to help an alcoholic? If you help the alcoholic you will help your friend. If their relationship is dangerous get the girl out, but don't forget the drunk "he or she" needs help.
Asked in Alcoholism
Why should you feel sorry for the alcoholic?
An alcoholic is not a victim. The friends and family of the alcoholic are the victims. ANSWER Alcoholism is not a condition that the alcoholic enjoys or wishes upon himself. The fact is most alcoholics that are still drinking are usually miserable and are ashamed that they cannot drink socially like most people. Alcoholism left untreated can lead to a painful death. Unfortunately family and close friends of the alcoholic will also experience anguish. The solution for the alcoholic is of course to stop drinking. This solution is found in treatment and A.A. If the alcoholic is not willing to work at the solution then family and friends need to sever all ties with the alcoholic to cease any further damage to themselves. Hopefully this will help motivate the alcoholic to seek treatment and recovery.
Asked in Alcoholism
How does a family stage an intervention for an alcoholic?
Asked in Alcoholism
How can you help an uncooperative alcoholic?
The bottom line is that you cannot help an alcoholic who doesn't want help. You simply cannot make them stop drinking if they don't want to. They key in this situation is to help them want to. This is usually only achieved by drastic measures by family and friends such as cutting off money, kicking them out of the house etc. A lot of times an intervention will achieve letting the alcoholic know that you aren't going to tolerate their behavior anymore.
Asked in Health
What is a group of people such as friends and family who promise to help each other during tough situations called?
Asked in Breakups
Should you have to pay financially or emotionally for someone else's alcohol abuse?
Alcoholism is a disease and often it is caused by genetics if there is one or more people in the family with alcoholic problems. No one should have to pay financially for the drain the alcoholic is placing on a mate or their family because it is an enabling factor. Some alcoholics will sell everything they can around them or put themselves into debt; even lose their jobs in order to get their next drink. If the person has tried to get the alcoholic to AAA and they are going to Alanon to deal with the alcoholic and the alcoholic refuses to even try then it would be to the mate's best interest to move on in their own life. You cannot help someone that will not help themselves and by staying it will drain the mate's energy; they often have financial woes; feel lonely because the alcoholic mate prefers the company of other people who drink; arguing and sometimes verbal to physical abuse by the alcoholic re their mate not to mention any children living in an environment of turmoil.
Asked in Hospitals
Is there a place for family to stay for cheap when you have someone in the hospital?
Asked in Parenting and Children, Family
What is disadvantages of nuclear family?
1) If both parents are working, children are left in care of an external person like baby sitter. 2) No one to help out in case of tough situations, family support is lacking. 3) Children become detached and they are in contact of only immediate family members. 4) Good manners and ability to share are tough to be taught to children in nuclear family.
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How did Michelangelo's family help him become a artists?
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What are some ways for someone to learn how to stop drinking alcoholic beverages?
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Responsibilities of a mother in a family?
Asked in Parenting and Children
Is an organization that can help teenagers who have an alcoholic parent or friend?
Asked in Beer and Brewing, Genetics
What is converted to ethanol during alcoholic fermentation?
Asked in Health, Alcoholism, Psychological Disciplines
Were can a teen go for help when they have alcoholic parents?
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How can you help an alcoholic stay sober?
Beverly Rayfield, who worked closely with Dr David Sinclair - founder of the Sinclair Method, has written an E-Book that has a great section on staying sober. Check it out at www.neuroassistedrecovery.com Answer: Firstly, being an expert and fully qualified alcoholic, the person needs to recognize the fact that he or she has a problem. It would then help to go to AA, 30 meetings in 30 days is the best advice. The you need to remove the risk of exposure; remove it from the home, change social patterns, do not drink yourself and give constant encouragement. Generally the changes a person experiences are profound and immediate, however it's a very, very long road... Change the behavior, the pattern of life and break the circle.... I am a 22 year recovered alcoholic. The answer to your question is complex. Alcolholism is a family illness and everyone is affected. If you are a spouse or other relative, the best thing you can do for the alcoholic is to call Alanon (in the phone book), go to one of their meetings yourself and learn how not to enable the alcoholic to stay in his illness. He/She can get well . If you are a concerned friend , you can get other friends and family members together to do an intervention, (call AA Inergoup in your phone directory for suggestions about this). The bottom line is the Aloholic MUST want help and be willing to attend Alcoholics Anonymous If they are not, the intervention may help, but here are a few other suggestions. 1. Never give an alcoholic money 2. Never argue with an alcoholic, delay conversations till when they are sober (unless in emergency situation) 3. Dont hide their liquor. 4. Do get advise from a professional or another sober alcoholic in AA, 5. Set boundaries, pray, and take good care of yourself first. An alcoholic can be helped by simply taking the person to a rehab.