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Me and my GF have been together 1 12 years. i have 3 kids from a previous marriage she sd she wants kids with someone that dosent already have kids. i did kinda hide this from her in the begin. Help?
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∙ 12y ago
Wow! You've gone 18 months without her finding out you have three kids? There must be something more to this. Do the kids live out of state?
If you truly love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her - the sooner you lance this boil, the better. You must do so in the most contrite, respectful way you know how.
People have an amazing ability to forgive when a sincere apology is made and you ASK for forgiveness. In addition, one of the strongest human emotions is the desire to help another person. If you saw an old lady fall on the sidewalk, you would probably rush over to help her.
If you saw a teenage girl being assaulted, you would probably do something about it.
My advice - bring your girlfriend the biggest bouquet of flowers you can find. Tell her that you need to ask her forgiveness for something. Tell her that you value her too much to let this continue.
Just open completely up. It may ultimately be a powerfully intimate moment for both of you.
It will be important to appeal to her sense of "helping" you. Not in a begging way - but in a loving, supportive way. An appropriate question would be something like, "How do I convince you that the reason I haven't told you about the kids is that I was afraid I would lose you? Now, I'm even more afraid of that."
Good luck and peace to you.
David
I agree with David, but I don't think you should have lied to her in the first place.
If you really love her, you need to talk this out together. But if she doesn't want children with you, you can't forced her, but if you try talking to her in a supportive way and telling her you really want to her children with her because of how much you love her, she may change her mind.
Good luck and peace.
i agree with David, its your choice if you want to tell her or not you don't have to if you don't want to, but right now coming from a girl, it would probably be easier if you didn't lie to her at all this time. If you really love her i would tell her the truth and tell her how bad you feel, and why you lied, you didn't want to lose her. If that's the real reason. but i wish you the best luck and hope that lucky girl stays with you!!!
Peace....
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