My friend just had a baby and gave her my daughter's middle name. I'm a little upset about it since she even spelled it the same way. Should I say something to her?

Answer 1

Take it as a compliment. Your daughter isn't using it. So, you're upset - what's she supposed to do? Rename her baby so you'll be happy? All she can do is say I'm sorry. You should consider whether it's worth losing a friend before you say anything. She probably will stop being a friend if you make her feel bad. ---- People can name their children anything they choose. Unless you invented the name, you don't really have any claim on it, and even then it's not like you can copyright it. Still, if you were trying to give your daughter a unique name, you might feel that something has been taken away. Assuming that your friend knows it's your daughter's middle name, maybe she really admires it and expects you to be pleased and flattered. She might be shocked to know you're upset. But chances are she is not going to change her daughter's name just because you're unhappy. So what exactly do you think it would accomplish to tell her?

Answer 2

It's natural to feel upset and disappointed when someone uses a name that is special and meaningful to you. However, it's important to approach the situation with understanding and open communication. Consider having a calm conversation with your friend to express your feelings, understand her perspective, and find a resolution that both parties are comfortable with.