My husband refuses to get over the past and is constantly rubbing my face in my past and present flaws. He is also unable to take responsability for his own actions. What should I do?

Answer 1

Talk to him. Whatever he keeps rubbing in your face is in the past and it is immature and unnecessary of him to keep bringing it up. The past is in the past and it should be left there. You don't deserve to have him treat you like that because everyone has flaws. We're all human beings and most know that they are not perfect so it is pointless to point out peoples flaws unless they ask. I know you must love you husband or you wouldn't be asking how to fix this and I'm assuming that you would want to work things out with him. The best thing that you can do is try to talk to him about it. He may not realize what he does and that he makes you feel this way. Just be honest because honesty is the key in any relationship.If he does not own up to his actions wait until he does it again and point it out as he does it. He can't deny something that has just come out of his mouth. Explain how he makes you feel when he does this and maybe he will start to understand that its not good for you to be treated like that. I know that no one wants to live with that so if he can just put himself into your shoes, with a little help from you on how your shoes fit, maybe he will get your side of the story. If you've already tried this then I'm sorry I've waisted your time! I really hope that things start to look better in your situation and that it is fixable. If you've tried talking to him then I would say that your best option is to investigate couples therapy. Sometimes having someone else there to mediate and help the other understand better your feeling and thoughts can really make a difference. I really do hope things work out.

GO TO COUPLES COUNSELING. THERE IS MORE TO THIS THAN YOU THINK.