Should you be upset if your boyfriend is attending a bachelor party?
(All advice is generic and incomplete of necessity. Apply as
fits, and use your own brains.)
Bachelor parties are common and acceptable by most in today's
society. If you are upset, explore strengthening trust in the
relationship. Bachelor parties are a harmless way to celebrate a
man's last day as a bachelor.
Yes, bachelor parties are disgusting betrayal (and I'm a man, mind
you). If he goes to one without your consent then he is selfish, he
is a traitor, and you can find a better man than him.
Since you ask, you are, whether you should be or not. Either
because you're afraid he might reconsider or take this last
opportunity to have sex with someone else before he'd be breaking a
marriage vow (though that would still be cheating in most
or because the idea that he's "celebrating his last day of
freedom" insults you, since it implies he wouldn't marry you if he
had a choice. Then you should know that a bachelor's party is
almost never HIS idea, but that of his male friends. He may
actually have a problem with it himself, in which case maybe you
should provide him with the excuse "my wife doesn't want me to",
though he should be more upstanding. More likely, he likes the
idea, in which case it shouldn't be a problem for you even if you
don't trust him, since this will show you if you can.
No, you should not be upset if your boyfriend is having a bachelor
party. I mean the worst thing you can do is try to control him.
Bachelor Parties today are a cottage industry and the bad things
you think might happen really don't.
NO ABSOLUTELY NOT, let him do his thing if u tie him down it will
make matters worse go out for a drink with your girlfriends or
Depends on his friends!
Sounds like you both might have some trust issues. Guys and girls
should both be allowed to go out with friends. Even if it's a
bachelor party. Let him go and trust him. Then maybe he will
understand that he can trust you too.
Hey thanks for the advice, but I really do trust him. It is just
the places he is going. I know his ex will be there, and she still
calls. I don't like that, so that is why it bugs me
REPLY: So you don't trust him really (under these harsh
conditions). Ask him whether he trusts HIMSELF under these
conditions (alcohol, tempting suggestions/women ...). If he
doesn't, he should change them.
REPLY2:I know it bothers you that his ex-girlfriend is going to
be there, but then again it's a trust issue. He shouldn't have any
problems with you having a bachelorette party either. What does he
do when she calls him? Has he asked her to stop or are they just
friends? then only thing I can tell you is you have to trust him
and if you have doubts sit down and talk with him about it. Don't
accuse, don't throw fits, don't get angry, just sit and talk with
him about it. Besides, fighting with him about it isn't going to
solve anything and just make things worse.
REPLY3: Nowhere in the posters question did they mention an
ex-girlfriend attending the bachelor party. My question is, why is
she there? A bachelor party can be anything. It can be guys just
going out for some beers at a pub and cutting of a little (or a
lot), or going to a strip bar or even a private party his friends
are having for him. Other than strippers there should be no girls
present and that means no ex!
Men having these bachelor parties is a celebration of the last
night of "freedom!" That's all it should be. In high end strip bars
the girls do dance (possible lap dance) but that's as far as it
usually goes and the bouncers see to that. Those girls aren't out
to date your boyfriend, but entertain and they get paid for it. If
you have a problem with this then you have a jealous streak in
REPLY4: If his ex is going to be there then I have no idea why
you aren't going. Please explain! Yes, it's odd to me and even if
he's true to you, you can bet she's going to do her best to try and
get his attention.
[Comment: This may not be a bad thing. A bachelor's party is
supposed to make clear to him what he's giving up (at least in
part), and whether he's REALLY serious about his commitment. Though
it might make the impression on him that everyday would be a party
(depending on his intelligence). As to why SHE shouldn't go...How
could he possibly celebrate freedom from her in her