Was life ever hard for lords in the middle ages?
In the middle ages Lords had to fight to defend their lands and kings. If a Lord did not fight then he could lose his land to his rival or be beheaded for disloyalty
There may have been a Queen Victoria in the Middle Ages, but I cannot find any reference to her. There was a Victoria who was the mother of Victorinus, a man who claimed to be the Roman Emperor in the 3rd century, but she was not a queen and did not live in the Middle Ages. I searched online and in a hard copy of the the Webster's Biographical Dictionary dating from 1948.
I am not sure the Church was "hard" during the Middle Ages. The Church spent a lot of energy providing for the sick and poor, giving people refuge, representing the needs of the poor to the kings, and protecting people. There is a link below to a related question, "What was the role of the Church in the Middle Ages?"
There were no "teenagers" in the middle ages. A person was a child and then they were grown. The term teenager is a modern term that came about in the 1940's and the ideas that someone has no responsibility from age 13 to 18 is also modern. At these ages in the middle ages people were married, working, fighting in wars, and they only lived to about 25 years old. Life was short and hard.