What are good traits to have for a relationship?

Answer 1

In my opinion, based on my own experience with many relationships, some of the most important traits to have for a successful relationship would be honesty first and foremost. Followed by trust and loyalty. And these traits are for any relationship. Family, friends, acquaintances, lovers and employment. Because without these basic traits, no relationship no matter how small or large, would not be able to survive. See, when I enter into a relationship, I tend to ask myself what I intend to benefit from it first. Because no matter who you meet, you know that there are many different types of ways you can enter into one. You first have to decide where the relationship will go. Will it be a casual, "hi and hello" or will it be a relationship you are willing to work on to make it last forever. Once you figure that out, that's half the battle. Because, if upon meeting a person, you can see immediately, that you have nothing in common with a person, then you tend to not give it as much effort as you would if you met someone who had a true impact in a positive way on you. I have always used my own little system that has seemed to work for me. When I meet people, I automatically start from the top of body and work my way down. First, with the head. Can I carry a logical and intelligent conversation with this person, or not? Then I use my eyes to give me a general sweep of how they relate to me and others around them. Do they maintain good eye contact which is a sign of confidence? Is there overall appearance appealing to me? Then I give them a quick smell test! Yes, a SMELL test! That tells me how much they care about hygiene. Which for me, is pretty important! :) Then, if all is well so far, I continue with a conversation with them. As we talk to each other, I notice if they speak intelligently and kindly. This tells me how they speak to others on a day to day basis. Then, I go for the heart. Are they loving and kind to me and others around them? Do they treat people the way I could see them treating me? Do they show compassion and understanding? All good character points to look for. And if they pass those tests, then the rest is pretty much history... they might be worth getting to know! And if they don't seem like they are worth while at that point, well, I usually just skip to the feet, and give them my foot out the door! :)

Answer 2

For a short term relationship, you might just want someone who is fun to be with for the evening. For a more long term relationship (which, if you can make it work, is the best kind) you want someone who is going to be an asset rather than a liability to your own life; a person who on the whole solves problems rather than creating problems. Everyone has problems, there are no perfect people, but you look at the overall balance. You want to know if this person will make your life more difficult or less difficult.