What can you do if your ex-girlfriend might be a narcissist and you want her back but she wants to move away and believes in a long-distance relationship with you but you don't want her to leave?

Answer 1

Sometimes life throws us a curve and we don't much care for the change, but what we don't always realize is its usually the best thing that could happen to us and is a warning to move on. In the case of your ex-girlfriend I think you are getting a warning. Although there are some long distance relationships that work out they are few and far between. Jealousy most often rears it's ugly head. One doesn't know if the other is dating someone while they are away. Personally, I wouldn't get involved in a long distance relationship. There is nothing better than seeing that person in the flesh. Your girlfriend is being selfish and wants it all her own way. There is nothing wrong with her wanting to move, but she should be more honest with you. If you truly love someone then you try to find ways of staying together. She could have asked you to move out where she was going, or made plans for both of you getting together some weekends or on holidays. Since it doesn't appear she is thinking along these lines I would be very aware of the fact she has no regard for your feelings and is not as in love with you as you are with her. Even through the pain of losing someone you love, hold onto your dignity. Have a chat with her and say something like: "I wish you all the luck in the world, but I don't care for long distance relationships, and I feel we should both be free to date other people." If she really cares for you the thought of you dating another girl will drive her crazy, but if she doesn't respond to your comment or doesn't make much of a fuss then she isn't going to miss you as much as you think she will. Either way you'll win ... you'll be hurt, but you'll hold onto your dignity and by doing so you will meet another girl that is really meant for you. Good luck Marcy