What do you do if you start to fancy a girl who hates you?

Answer 1

It might be best to just let go. That means you don't try to interact with her in any manner. You stay out of her way, leave her alone. It would depend on why the girl hates you. But there is a catch. (There is always a catch.) If a girl hates you because of something you said or did, you have a problem. If you have hurt, insulted or otherwise offended her, there is a burden on you to go through a series of events including apologizing and making amends. This is not a "thing" you do, but is a "process" you move through. You screwed up, and you realize it. You've though about it and you're clear about what you did. You will insure you are sincere (within your own heart) about your dismay and regret; you must truly be sorry. You then make your apology. The apology is also accompanied with the presentation of the idea that you are open to doing something to "pay the girl back" for your transgression. Here's how it might sound. "I want to say that I'm sorry that I ...." You look her in the eye when you say that, and keep it short and dead on target. "I have no idea what I was thinking when I did it, but I realize it was totally stupid. I regret more than I can say bringing you all the distress you had to endure because of what I did." (Don't even think about saying anything suggesting you know how much you hurt her. You can't possibly know.) "I will never do anything like that again, and if there is anything I can do for you to make some sort of amend, please tell me what that might be." After you have "done the right thing" here, what will happen will happen. If you are still interested in the girl, you will have to gauge her willingness to "take you back" after all this. Was she a schoolmate? A friend? A girlfriend? A steady girlfriend? The bottom line remains that how she treats you in the future is mostly up to her. It will be up to you to accept it. As so many other questions and answers here tell us, you can't make anyone like or love you. You simply can't. You will treat them with respect. And you will honor their wish that you keep your distance if that is what they want. Having said all that, if the girl hates you but not because of anything you did, you will just have to walk a "high path" and respect her wish for you to keep your distance. Some people will, on occasion, "reject" another person for whatever reason. And that's her loss. You will feel badly because of her "rejection" here, but how you deal with it says who you are. You are a good person, and worthy of friendship. You act in ways that show your friends you respect them, and they act that way toward you. If she does not return your respect, that's herproblem. Certainly you will have to live with the consequences, but it's not your fault and you are "clean" in this situation. Fortunately you have the fortitude, the courage, to accept a cold shoulder. It does happen, and, though you don't know why a lot of the time, you have to live with it -- which you can do. You are the kind of person with the strength, the heart, to endure any slight and move through it with grace. It's who you are.

Answer 2

if she always acts like she hates you it could be because she likes you- joke isn't it? try and find out what she's interested in or what you have in common and maybe use MSN to talk to her about it, its easier than face to face, or you can act like she is the only peerson you could talk to about something- e.g homework if your still at school if she's good at somthing your bad at, when you feel she likes you a bit more then you can admit to it- if she's just continually mean then try and forget about her- there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes

Answer 3

there are 3 things that you can do.

1. avoid her

2. get close to her and try to gain her friendship

3. move.

that's all i got. dude this sucks because hell has no wrath like a woman's scorn