(All advice is generic and incomplete of necessity. Apply as fits, and use your own brains.)Detailed CaseI am in a sticky situation. My love which I moved for from the East Coast and lived with for 1 year, has strongly avoided any future plans together (family, kids, etc.). He says he wants to be with me, he loves me, I am in his future, but doesn't know when - for sure not in the next 4-5 years, and he says he can't promise me anything if I ask him to be more specific. No kids in the next 6-7.. We are both 30, generally happy, healthy, educated. I love him and I am willing to wait until he figures out what he wants, and haven't had any abandonment issues with him until now. We had a big argument and I told him that even if I wait for him that long, by the age of 36 I may not be able to have kids. He said he understands, but can't promise anything. It's really hard for me to stay now with him and act as I wasn't hurt and disappointed. I am afraid if I move out, he would treat it as betrayal, if I stay I am afraid I could hardly act normal as before. Has anyone had similar experience? He's not ready, can't promise me anything, but doesn't want me to go out see other people or move out, because that's gonna hurt him and he's gonna leave me for sure..
[Comment:]That sounds like a threat. His love for you seems to be very egoistical: He wants to keep you but he doesn't want to take a risk to make you happy. And since he DOES want to keep you he doesn't want you to meet others where you might meet someone closer to your heart, either.
What should I do?
Basic line: you want kids, he doesn't. How did you ever get together in the first place? Did you just assume that if he loved you, he'd also want to have kids? Did he pretend that he wanted kids? Then you should leave him, unless you love him very much AND change your mind about kids. Here are some aspects that may help you change your mind:
You've got to confront this. Hopefully you can do this together: try to get him to talk about why he wants to wait--what is he feeling? What is he scared of? If you two can't do it alone, you should try counseling. But if he refuses, then you need to confront this by yourself, which probably means moving out and perhaps breaking up. I'm sorry, that's painful, but you've got to do this for yourself. What he is doing is completely unfair, and extremely selfish. He is thinking only of himself, and if you both are going ot have a life together, that is unacceptable. Is this the person you want to be with? Is this the person you want to be the father of your children?
WHAT IS UNFORTUNATE IS THAT YOU MOVED IN WITH HIM. THE WHOLE PROCESS OF DATING IS A TRIAL PERIOD TO SEE IF THE TWO OF YOU ARE COMPATIBLE. ALL OF THIS SHOULD HAVE BEEN DISCUSSED WELL BEFORE YOU MOVED IN WITH HIM. I DO NOT BELEIVE THIS GUY IS BEING SELFISH BECAUSE HE IS BEING HONEST. UNLESS HE TOLD YOU ORIGINALLY THAT HE WANTED THE WHOLE ENCHILADA. YOU ARE IN A PICKLE. MY ADVISE TO YOU IS CUT YOUR LOSSES WHILE YOU ONLY HAVE INVESTED/LOST/WASTED 1 YEAR INTO THE RELATIONSHIP. NEXT TIME ASK DIRECT QUESTIONS. MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT MOVE IN TOGETHER & THAT YOU BOTH HAVE THE SAME GOALS.
Don't live with someone unless you're sure they want to spend the rest of their life with you. It causes way too many problems. Get married before living together, and make positively sure you want to be with them forever before marrying. And if you do, don't look back. Don't have the attitude that if it doesn't work out you can get divorced, because that attitued can cripple your relationsip.
Guys who actually WANT kids of their own impulse are few. Though I LIKE kids (I'm a guy), I don't want any. Here are some reasons why:
Now I realize that if you have a strong need for kids, even if you'd agree that kids are not the smart thing to do, you'd still be very unhappy because a strong basic drive is not satisfied. Do they have to be your own? If not, maybe just being a babysitter for kids of parents who'd like a time-out from their parenthood will suffice. And maybe you could get a pet or two. Or maybe you could just set off the pill, though you run a serious risk of losing him. You may even do it with open cards: "I'm not on the pill anymore. If you want to sleep with me, you'll have to chance pregnancy."
Another thing: before you make this a "do it or scram"-issue you should first check if you're even fertile. Though the chances that you're infertile are low, this would remove the reason for your conflict, and he can make you as happy as you can be without kids.
No. If what your partner tells you is true, you should not get HPV.
You will never know what the name of your life partner is until you find that one guy who u absolutely love and have been together for a while n he finally propose. but you never know who ur life partner is until ur heart tells ya
they have broken up in november 2011 and he is living in US with new girlfriend.They are still together at this time, living together and could be married. At the last concert Carlos said that the all but him were married now so that tells you something. It was on Aug 19,2011He doesn't live in the USA.Occasionally seeing Kelly Phelan, but never formalized the relationship. At least never publicly stated that she is his partner. In his profile on Il Divo official site Tania Rodney is still his official partner.
They could be together if Romeo's family and Juliet's family weren't enemies. So if he doffed (removed) his name, he would be a more acceptable boyfriend.
Oldest Living Confederate Widow Tells All was created in 1989.
Prove them wrong! Get a partner of the opposite sex.
Until his partner tells him "That's deep enough!
it does the seven things all living thingsneed to do to live.
Tradition tells us that Saint Joseph made his living as a carpenter. He was always open to fulfilling God's will in his life and protecting his family.
The tanker truck driver's partner, who the Terminator tells to "Get out!" of the truck.
The sensors all work together and the computer tells it when to shift.
A group (also known as a family) is a vertical column in the periodic table of the chemical elements and the group number tells you what group it is in.
it tells them apart :)
Oldest Living Confederate Widow Tells All - TV film - was created in 1994.
"dont let my family starve"
Beat the person up until he/she tells you or mess with his family until he tells you use your imagination
Rely on family members and friends to know the difference between your abusive sister-in-law and the lies she tells in comparison to you and your partner; give credit to others to see through her. The first step is to ban her from your home and to make family members realize you will not go anywhere she is if she continues to be abusive towards you and your partner. You should also gather some of the close family members along with her and her husband and confront her (family intervention) to get to the bottom of why she is doing this. If she refuses to try and be on her best behavior around you and your partner then the whole family should turn their backs on her until she gets some psychological help. No one can destroy your lives unless you let them.
I don't think it does. Philosophy never tells you what to do. What provides rules for living is religion.
Joey picks Pacey and we see them living together in NYC. Jack and Doug (Pacey's brother) agree to raise Jen's baby together after Doug tells Jack that he wants to spend his life with him.
the magazine Living Without
number of people living there by square foot