What do you do when you're not getting what you need in a relationship?

Answer 1

Most people would tell you to break up but I would talk but don't argue or force a time to talk on your partner because this is not what they would want leading you to break up

Answer:

Perhaps the other person is not getting what they need either. You might think about the situation - what it is exactly that you need and ask the other person what they need. An interesting place to start is the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It is pretty much the idea that each of us has a different style of need and a preferred style of giving. But, what you give may not be fulfilling the other's needs.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist in Denver, Colorado I have seen a lot of couples come to me with the exact same question you have. You have several options. Be creative and you can think of tons. There are four that I can think of right now:

1) Talk About It: Let them know that you're not feeling fulfilled in your relationship and let them know why. They may not even realize that you're feeling the way you are and will quickly work to resolve the difficulty.

2) Find Other Things to Bide Your Time Until They Come Around: Sometimes relationships just go through rough patches. Life happens and all the difficulties that go along with it. This sometimes makes a spouse not available to their partner. In which case you just need to wait for your partner to overcome whatever is going on in their life. You can join a book club, pick up a new hobby, etc. while you wait.

3) See a Relationship Counsellor:

A lot of times people know they're not happy in their relationship but can't identify specifically why. A lot of times a person has many complaints about a relationship and can't pick just one to talk to their partner about. When that happens, it's best to see a counselor to help you sort through your own emotions. They will also help give you ideas of where to start on the path to fixing your relationship.

4) Breakup. If you're not getting what you need from a relationship. You can obviously breakup. A lot of times this causes more hurt and pain the short-term and even in the long-term so be careful if this is the one you pick.

Answer

Be honest and talk about it with your partner but do not try and talk about it when you feel angry or resentful. Talk about it in a caring and loving manner if you truly wish to improve the relationship and make things work out between you.

The first step is to evaluate your own unhappiness or disenchantment. Ask yourself what is it that you need from teh relationship? What is it that you feel is lacking? Relationships take work. They also take two people. Is your disatisfaction about the relationship or are you going through a time in your life when you feel as if many things are'nt working.

Once you have fully evaluated the reasons for your dissatisfaction, you will be better prepared to tackle the problem.

Answer 2

Be bold,say something!approach the situation honestly and you should be fine