What does it mean if you never feel excited or happy and you can't cry?

Answer 1

One theory is that you may have had some form of breakdown.

After your breakdown, and it could be anything, but maybe your whole body feels used up. Like you have cried all there is to cry. Or you are afraid to have such strong emotions again. It could be anything.

However, it is totally normal. There is no sense in worrying about it. My guess is you will start to cry again at something silly-- like a sappy movie or song-- and then maybe a lot of tears and emotion will come out. I've been there.

Or maybe you will be afraid to show your emotions for a while. Do you repress other emotions? Sadness? Do you try not to let people know how you feel? It sounds like you are troubled, if you are getting arrested. Maybe your emotions are going in the wrong direction. Lots of times anger is just a cover-up for sadness. I don't know what you did, but that may have been a part of that. Or you want to feel like you don't care, and break the law because of that.

The sadness will come out if you let it but don't push it. When you felt those tears, some part of you told you not to cry. Maybe it felt like a weakness, or a danger. I think if you don't worry about it but just relax and let it flow when it does happen, your emotions will help you sort it out.

Are you seeing a therapist? I am thinking you must be if you had a breakdown. If not, you must get one. Assuming you are, do you trust him/her with your emotions? Can you tell him/her exactly how you feel? Have you been able to tell him/her about not being able to cry? Have you been able to talk about the feelings that make you want to break the law?

If not, my first suggestion is to try it and see. Therapists are pretty understanding and you can tell them just about anything. Try with a small thing that is hard to say and go from there. It is also possible that you and your therapist don't click. Try hard but if it doesn't work, find another therapist. But you must tell and talk to your old therapist about why you want to change.

Or maybe you feel comfortable talking to a certain teacher, or a brother or sister, or one of your parents. Again, you might find your parents easier to talk to and more understanding than you thought. Again, try with something small. Saying "I feel hurt when..." or "I feel angry when..." is a big start.

I feel for you and I hope you can talk about it to someone. Just relax and don't worry about not crying. Don't judge yourself. Try to be honest about your emotions and don't hold them back-- honest with yourself and with people you can trust.

I'll be thinking of you.