What does it mean when your ex-girlfriend who broke it off still wants to be friends but is not yet comfortable talking about who she's dating?

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In general everyone is their own person and has their own persepctive as to why they do things so you can't expect every answer to be right for you but I can take a shot and I will say that EVERY FEMALE OR MALE is not the same.. Basically I'm going through this with my ex-husband (of only 5 months LOL) this is what the possibility most likely is ONLY from my perspective because I am doing this to my ex right now. ~ I love my ex husband to death and it started to overwhelm me because I felt like he "loved" me more than I LOVED him.. It turned into control after a while.. But in general although he treated me wrong I still do love him and if I go back to him its my decision but currently I am trying to see if he is REALLY what I want in life right now I saw him yesterday and we hadn't seen each other for a while and all the feelings came back as to why I loved him... HOWEVER I am starting to see his true colors, either he is bipolar or young and undecisive buuutttt... We agreed yesterday we would attend a concert together next month and he gave me some money since I am unemployed until next week.. I accepted his gifts and his offers ONLY AS A TEST.. HE is acting just how I thought he would today.. For some odd reason we were saying how much we love each other still and that we should be friends but NOOOO here he goes out of the blue just because I didn't text him back.. He says now "to forget about the concert but its always love I have more important things to do" The moral of the story here is if you want her back the best way to go about doing that is to comply with every thing she wishes. Because just as I expected my ex to act "bi-polar" like he is acting that is more of the reason I don't want him back. Some women such as myself, (good or bad thing) need alone time and space to contemplate on what they need in their life especially from ages 19-25 this is when we are REALLY trying to figure out wh owe are. This is not to say that it isn;t meant to be with both of you but she doesn't feel comfortable talking about who she's dating because maybe she i safraid of how you will react I'm not sure what your personality is but I am sure of what my exes is and generally whenever my phoen would ring he was usually very prying into my life which became overwhelming because I had nothing to hide but I always felt like I had to hide the most insignificant details of my day-to-day. Depending on your personality you may be a sincere person but she chooses to not talk about it because if you consistently are asking her then she is feeling overwhelmed right nwo and just needs space. Hope men can understand that, we have to be independent at times whether we want to or nto unless we will go insane. == == == == This girl is playing both ends against the middle. Don't be so accommodating! Keep her guessing! Tell her she was the one that chose to split-up and remain friends, but that doesn't mean you need to discuss what you are doing either. I suggest you start going out with friends and take up dating again. If there is anything between you this will really get her dander up. She wants everything her way, but wants you to stay put. Don't do it! Good luck Marcy It means she still wants to be friends, or she wants to keep you around in case the new guy doesn't work out. Either way, there are about 20 million more girls out there that will feel comfortable talking to you about everything. So forget what things mean in her head and move on to something new and fresh.