What to do when you love your best friend but you are married about to divorce and he has a girlfriend who cheated on him but he is incarcerated?

Answer 1

Hun if your husband cheated on you then i would leave him. But for your friend tell him that you are there for him always. And even if he has a gf doesnt mean he doesnt want u. Just visit him all the time, and show how much u respect him and care for him ok..

Answer 2

Assuming you mean "love" in a romantic sense:

Moving a "best friend" relationship to a deeper romantic level is never an easy thing, but if done successfully, can provide a solid foundation for greatness. You must decide whether you want to risk the friendship enough to explore this possibility, knowing that if things don't work out, you may diminish or lose your friendship.

If you decide that it is worth it, I strongly suggest that you first let some time pass in order for both of you to heal from the wounds created by your past relationships. Diving into a new relationship (especially one with a best friend) on the heels of a divorce or one that ended badly (with his girlfriend cheating on him) can create cracks in the foundation from the beginning. These emotional wounds need to heal first. Perhaps you and your friend can aid each other in this healing process, but in the midst of a romance, that could be a very tricky thing.

Finally, adding the fact that he is incarcerated just makes these waters even more treacherous to navigate, but I won't get into that here.

In summary, it seems to me that you have a lot going on, with complications that make it hard for a long term relationship to blossom and I suggest that you wait for wounds to heal, and even perhaps for him to be released before you try to take this one to the next level. Perhaps, a best friend is what you both need during this tough time?