What is gaslighting that Narcissists do?
"Gaslighting" is a nifty little manipulation trick that
narcissists use to confuse you. This one I felt was particularly
"fascinating." For example, my ex used to insist I said or did
something that I didn't, but he left it open enough for me to
question myself at the time..."Did I really..?" He did this so
subtly that I really did doubt myself at times. Things would turn
up missing. (I am convinced now that he was stealing from
me...money, prescription pills...etc) Sometimes stupid little
things would disappear, like my toothbrush! (How in the hell do you
misplace your TOOTHbrush...?) Well, he was creating a smoke screen
of sorts so he could lie to me and manipulate me further. He would
say, "See, you even lost your freakin' toothbrush. No WONDER you
can't find the $20 bill you left on the counter. "GASLIGHTING" my
Is it just a way of provoking you?
That's one part of it. It also keeps you off balance and
You lose confidence in yourself and that allows him to feel like
he's in control.