The electrons surrounding the nucleus of an atom are in fixed 'layers' - with a defined number of electrons in each 'shell'. Stable atoms have a fixed number of electrons in their outer shell.
When two atoms combine (to form a molecule) one electron is 'discarded' and the two atoms share a common electron to keep the molecule stable. The electron that's 'discarded' is said to be 'lost'. The electrons are still present - just 'free-floating'.
When two atoms split, they 'grab' a free-floating electron to stabilise the molecule again. This electron is said to have been 'gained'.
Lose
When atoms lose or gain electrons, they form ions. These are charged particles.
Se will gain electrons
Lose electrons is oxidation. To gain electrons is reduction.
Silicon (Si) can gain or lose 4 electrons. It can either gain 4 electrons to have a stable octet configuration or lose 4 electrons to achieve a stable configuration.
If you mean Metals... No, they do not gain electrons, they actually lose electrons because it is a lot easy for them to lose them so they can gain stability much faster.
it loses electrons
Electrons
Atoms typically do not lose protons because that would change the identity of the element. Instead, atoms can lose or gain electrons to form ions with a different charge. Protons are not generally lost by atoms in chemical reactions.
Selenium may lose 2, 4 or 6 electrons and may gain 2 electrons.
Gain of one electron
Metals lose electrons, nonmetals gain electrons.