What is the cost of staying in a loveless marriage?

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All these questions through the years about dating, cheating, divorce. I really have to say something. You were on a dating site years ago with my mother. Your wife found out and actually called my mother and told her she was your wife. My mom had no idea you were ever married because on your Hi5 profile you said you were single. My mom even went to the point of sending your wife ALL the messages you sent to her. So when you talk about Cheating, Dating, your Wife being ugly to you and when YOU talk about getting a divorce; I'm surprised your wife hasn't done that years ago, because according to the messages my mom sent to her, she has not been the only one you have/had been in contact with at least on Hi5, how many more are you on? Your wife must be a saint. She has MS a brain hematoma from an accident ( I'm sure she was not driving ) and you have the nerve to come on here and ask questions about DIVORCE?

You should be ashamed of yourself. I'll pray for you because you are going to rot in HELL.

This perspective is from a man in the U.S. who is currently in a loveless marriage and friends who struggle in their marriage The emotional and finance cost for the man will increase over time. Essentially the longer you stay in a broken or loveless marriage the worse it will be for you, your children and family. There are two basic categories: Your wife is a professional capable of earning a living wage and taking care of herself and the children (if and when the court awards custody This case is Kiley to come down to a dividing your property and deciding custody The majority of the time, the man will be required to pay child support and depending on comparable incomes alimony for a period until your former spouse can establish a residence. If your the husband in the divorce don't kid yourself no one will have any sympathy for you. Reasonable request will only apply to those of the wife. Somehow the man is expected to establish himself with out any aid. Next, your wife has no marketable skill and its doubtful she can earn much above minimum wage. This is also true for women who have not worked in their professional field for 10 or more years (its tough to go back to work). Clearly in this case the longer you stay in a broken or loveless marriage the worse it will be for you. Many men I've spoken to are in this situation, either their spouse has never worked or has stopped working to take care of the children. It depends on who the court awards custody of the children to. Although a friend in Maryland, married 11 years with no children had to pay his ex alimony for 10 years as well as a portion of his future pensions / 401k. If children are awarded to the mother, they almost always are, then the cost increases both long and short term. For a man the monitory cost will only increase the longer you stay in a marriage. If you think or feel divorce is inevitable do it sooner rather than later. Don't stay in a bad marriage or convince yourself that you are staying for the children. Take care of yourself so you can take care of them later. For emotional cost: everyone has a limit to what they can tolerate Once exceeded both professional and personnel life will suffer. Staying in a loveless relationship will cause you to grow distant to first your spouse then your children, this will hurt you in any future divorce. Seeing a marriage therapist or counselor. If your dealing with non fundamental issues then sure give it a try. But for fundamental problems don't waste your time, your marriage is over. Learn from your mistakes and move on.