The focus of a baby shower is on the mother-to-be and her baby. The father or baby-daddy or whatever is generally not present, married or not. Just keep the focus on the right things -- the positive aspects of parenthood and new life. The shower is not a proper time to create any bad feelings or offer any opinions on lifestyle.
give my niece's baby gift before and after born?
There is more of a fuss made over the first child as far as baby showers, but there are no rules in etiquette if you want to have a second or third baby shower for the same expectant mother.
It depends on the family and friends of the woman having her fifth baby whether they want to have another baby shower for her. There is no set etiquette for this so a woman can have one or many baby showers for each child.
Your family or friends can give you baby showers.
Traditionally, baby showers are a female only event. However, couple's baby showers or coed baby showers are increasingly common and these parties will have both men and women.
The proper etiquette upon recipiency of a complement is "thank you"
The mother or sister of the young woman expecting a baby can have a baby shower if they like. Often it is a sister that can arrange a baby shower and your sister will probably have another baby shower at work or by one of her friends.
Baby showers are a ceremonies. They are because they celebrate a birth of a baby and it is a ceremonies just like weddings and anniversary's
Generally baby showers are for young women that are pregnant; a few baby showers have the husband present. However, there is no etiquette stating that a male cannot have a baby shower. It may be fun. Be sure if there is any decorations that it's a neutral color and not pink. Talk to those at work to see what they think about it and if they want to participate in it and be sure your son wouldn't be embarrassed. Another way you could do it is get your daughter-in-law to meet you at work to go for lunch and then have the baby shower for your son and his wife.
Yes baby gift baskets are a great idea for baby showers. You can purchase gift baskets with items for both the mother and child.
A baby shower for an unwed mother is very appropriate. She will probably need more help than a married mother would. Be sensitive to the fact that the baby's father may not be in the picture. For instance, a bib that says "I love Daddy" would not be appropriate.
His parents pay for him and he pays child support for his baby.