Totalarianism is aform of system of government that sub-ordinates ts aspects to the citizens
Yes. He believed the government (aka him) should control everything.
The government started out by having a few rich men lead their city-state. But later that switched to democracy. A government ruled by the people. Today in America we still use this form of government.
The difference is subtle because both kings and dictators have absolute and complete power (although this is not always the case). Kings, supposedly, have some legitimate claim to the power, either because of a religious anointing, or because they descendants of the previous kings. Dictators on the other hand took their power by force and have no legitimate grounds to the power, other than they have greater strength than their adversaries. In many cases Kings were seen as being appointed by God.