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What should you do and how should you act when you were with your ex for 6 years and you had 2 children together and splitup and it is difficult for you to move on because he comes to see the children?
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* You WERE a couple but aren't any more. You have two kids so you are joined through your kids. If it is possible be friendly but not too friendly. Be polite as you would with someone who is an acquaintance in order to set some boundaries and let him know that he's not just walking back into your life when he sees fit. Why shouldn't you move on? You have every right to. You say he is an ex so he can have no demands on you. Have you really sorted out in your mind what you want? Are you secretly wanting him to come back? You need to work this out. If you want to get back together and he doesn't then you are just preparing yourself for disappointment.
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What did your ex partner mean when you splitup with him and he said at least you can wear heels now?
* It sounds like your boyfriend was on the short side and you had to wear flat shoes. Some short men find it difficult to be with a girl taller than themselves. He is stating that 'now you can date someone taller and you can wear heels again.' He may even think that's the reason you both splitup from each other.
What if your boyfriend wants to be friends with his exgirlfriend?
The past should stay in the past! Don't agree to it. They splitup for a reason and he met you so tell him to make his choice!
How do you get your ex girlfriend to split up with her new boyfriend?
You don't! You leave well enough alone. If she loved you she would splitup with him on her own accord. Don't make trouble for either of them because either she could dislike you a great deal more or her boyfriend may take a punch at you. Either way you won't come out a winner.
If your boyfriend dumped you when his friends found out you were going together did he dump you because he was just shy and didn't want his friends to know about you?
== == * If you are very young (15 or younger) then yes, it's possible that he is shy and his friends are teasing him so he's splitup with you. If you both are 16 or older then this is either a very immature thing to do or he's listening too much to his friends and perhaps they've suggest you don't go together. There could be all kinds of reasons and second guessing a situation like this can only get you into trouble. The best thing to do is "go to the horse's mouth" which is your ex boyfriend and ask him why he split-up with you. You have a right to know! == == * That seems like a good reason for him. Us women will never understand guys and guys will never understand women. If the relationship wasn't bad when you two decided to go out, then he's just the kind of guy that doesn't want his friends to know. You need to tell him your feelings because you might lose him as a friend as well if you don't confront him. He is just immature and you should go out with someone else for a bit to make him jealous.
My ex boyfriend is always trying to get my attention or touch me somehow and i always get the butterflies around him or feel all jittery what does this mean does it mean that i like him?
* You either still have a thing for him or are thrilled that he's still atatched to you. There's a difference. * Exes mean it's over! He is simply playing cat and mouse games with you and trying to control you. He doesn't want you or you wouldn't have splitup, but he wants to control you and needs to know where you are and who you go out with. Of course when he gets physically near you and touches you it brings a flood of memories back to you. Be smart and tell this guy to hit the curb!
How do you get your mother to move to California?
You didn't give us your age. Age is everything. If you are a minor and need your mom to move to California with you or, you're not a minor and you'd feel better if your mother moved to California. Are your parents splitup and your father in California? Please give us a little more information so we can give you a correct answer. Just to let you know, if your mother loves where she is there is no way she is going to move to California. She may have family and certainly friends where she is and could be working and enjoy her job. There may be things about California she doesn't like. Some people prefer peace and quiet while most youth enjoy a more thrilling area such as parts of California. Thanks
How can you without being nasty get a ex to stop contacting when you've broken up more than a year ago and are not interested in a relationship with them?
There is no way you can not hurt this person by moving on, but you have to be honest with your ex. 'Ex' means 'the relationship is no longer' and you both should have walked away completely from the beginning. Meet with him in a public, but small outside cafe and tell him that you are sorry, but you want to get on with your life and find it's not healthy keeping in contact. If he comes back with 'I thought we were friends' or 'Is it another guy' be prepared. Tell him that both of you should have moved on at the very beginning when you splitup and let him know that all women don't move on just to be with another guy. Let him know you want your freedom and find that seeing him confuses you. No matter how much he pleads with you remain on solid ground and tell him it's over! Honesty is always the best policy. You will never be able to please everyone in your life, but you have to please yourself to become a happy and well adjusted individual.
My ex is lying about how the relationship ended and now what do I do?
You didn't mention if he was lying to you, his family or your friends. Neither of them mean diddly because people that know you will realize the truth and those that don't and have the maturity to see both sides of the relationship aren't worth having in your life. He's your ex and he 's angry and is out to hurt you. He believes what he's saying! HIs loss! Keep moving! I was married before to a cheating husband and after almost four years finally came to the realization (with the help of his own brothers, family and friends) that I should leave him. I kicked him out of our suite, changed the locks and looked for another apartment, got a better paying job. I was quite shocked that some of the very friends that told me to leave him because of his infidelity were blaming me for the splitup. I never cheated on him nor did I hurt him in any way and always carried my own weight job wise. I 'shook the old apple tree' to see what rotten apples fell to the group and kicked shot them out of my life and kept the loyal friends that believed in me and my actions re the divorce. He tried to get me back several times, but I refused and I've never regretted I didn't go back. I was eventually introduced to a wonderful man and we have now been married 35 years. It doesn't matter what he says about the ending of your relationship. You know the truth, so move onward and upward. If family is interfering then tell them to butt out because it's personal and none of their business and let them know that if they persist on bringing it up you aren't coming around for a while. You're strong, you can stand on your own two feet and it's about time women realized they don't need men in their lives constantly. Women in most cases are quite capable of earning a decent living (if they really want too) and be independent. Once a woman realizes she doesn't need a man in her life and she can have all the freedom she wants and that's when she'll fall in love with a decent guy. You did nothing wrong. We don't know ourselves 100% so how can we be expected to know another person in our lives 100%. Forget the gossip, get out there with friends; change jobs if you like or stay in the job you're in; go to college; night school courses; take up a hobby; meet new friends and start having fun. Eventually you'll date and will meet a nice guy.
Why might it be difficult to get external funding for development?
By MIRA Consulting 1/24/014 Good guestion and there are several challenges in obtaining financing for your business. Of course, if you are politically connected, such may, and I say that with caution, provide special inroads for you for grants or special legislation that locks your venture into the deal. Look at the failed obamacare website... and HHS did not even set out a competetive bid. That deal was awarded to a classmate of Michelle Obama (old friends, you know). However, such a ''deal'' will carry a significant price tag (payback) later. Just keep in mind, eyes are watching. First and foremost, banks will require a security against a loan, and the only security that stands a chance is real estate. That same rule goes for SBA loans. Exceptions: There are many types of secured loans which rely upon inventory or other acceptable assets. Your signature and promise is not sufficient security. If you think you are going to get a loan without real estate to back it up as a security, you are dreaming a myth. Private Investors: Not likely, unless they have read your business plan and they understand the business. Add to that, don't expect them to hand over a chunk of cash without expecting a risk return. In business, it is a transactional thing, and if you don't plan on rewarding your investor, it's not going to happen. Venture Capital: Sure, go for it. They will charge you $30,000, $50,000, $100,000 to '' place '' your venture, and don't exepect them to do anything more than take your money and publish your venture on a buch of lists. Good luck. Best advice: Start small, see how your venture launches. See how the market responds to your product or service. Grow as the market supports your growth. Reinvest as much as possible into the biz, and keep plenty of working capital available so that you don't need to scramble for a loan with a predatory lender. Loans by Relatives or Friends: USE WISDOM - THE ANSER IS ''NOT A GOOD IDEA'' Business Partner: Just remember, any business partner is going to be like a second marriage. It will be a challenge at first, it will have sweet times, but one day the other party will part ways with you, and the cost of that splitup is going to cost you dearly. Advice: If you are entering a venture with a business partner.... see an attorney first.
Difference between packet switching and message switching by table format?
In Packet switching the packetss are stored and forwarded from primary storage (RAM) while in Message switching the message are stored and relayed from seconadary storage (disk). In Packet switched network data are transmitted in discrete units of potentially variable length blocks called packets, while in Message switching mecahnism a node recives a message stores it until the apporiarate route is free, then sends it along. Message switching sends data units that can be of any length. Packetswitching has a maximum packet size. Any message longer than that is splitup into multiple packets.
Is there a way you can get him back if he once loved you more than you love him but now it's the other way around and he says he doesn't love you anymore but you still love him?
The girl i really loved and got away is always first in my heart. As long as I'm not in another relationship she could walk in my life anytime. And she did and were currently getting along great. We split on bad terms the first time. True love will climb the wall. You can only abuse a person's love so long and then they build a wall around them to protect themselves. Unfortunately, some people never see what's right in front of them that's the most important thing in their life until it's too late. Sorry, but this wasn't meant to work out and this guy is long gone. Marcy I would disagree, if someone doesn't love you any more then it means they never did, if this guy claimed to be in love with you it means he was just in lust, Are you really in love with him? would you still feel this way about him if he had no legs or something? I agree with Marcy. When you are madly in love with a person and they either don't feel the same and/or abusive, you build up a wall. Over time the love you had for that person goes into such a state of disrespect as you know that person would not protect your heart. Unfortunately, many people do not realise this until the person hurt has left them. ---- == "The demand to be safe in relationship inevitably breeds sorrow and fear. This seeking for security is inviting insecurity. Have you ever found security in any of your relationships? Have you? Most of us want the security of loving and being loved, but is there love when each one of us is seeking his own security, his own particular path?" for full text, see link "JK on Love" on left I found 'JK on love' a good read and there is some truth to it, but you can take any subject and break it down right and left and come up with a big fat zero which appears to prove 'there is no love.' While I agree that since man no one has been able to define love. We each must seek what we feel is love and it can be very difficult. However, people that dissect every feeling there is re love, feelings of guilt, feelings of independence, etc., are like some scientists so into the subject and so intent on finding the answer they miss the point which a 5 year old could pick up quite easily because they are innocent and have not experienced what life can throw at them and clutter up their wee minds. Because it's right before our noses and because an adult brain is so complex and so riddled with what one has experienced we don't see things as clearly and innocently as a child. Love then begins to become complex. Why? Because we feel we are adults and have all the answers. Instead of moving with the wind we're moving against it in many cases. We simply expect too much from others and when they fail to meet our standards then the love for that person can wane or, one can leave the other or the two splitup. Each individual has to learn to be a leader in some things in their life and not a follower. No one has the right to tell another they are seeking love in all the wrong ways. We love, but sometimes are not loved back and it's this very subject that we must remain strong and realize there is someone out there that is meant for us and to have the strength to keep going until we find each other in this large world. Love is not perfection! I'm 65 years old and certainly wondered myself what love is. I've been hurt by love, but popped back up like a spring board and continued on with life. I didn't dissect love, but used my common sense to know it when I saw it. Did sex rule my life? Absolutely not. That in itself is a fallacy. One never went blind without sex. I never slept around for the sake of sex, but was very selective. I was married once, it failed because I didn't get the respect from my first husband. Was I expecting too much? No! I gave respect and expected it back and when he didn't deliver and cheated on me I was very independent and moved on. Was I searching for love; trying to find out if there was such a thing ... no! I am a laid-back person and get on with the beauty and joys of this world and worked hard, helped others, stopped and smelled the flowers and was happy. I learned that not everyone is as strong as myself and that they need help and may be down on their luck and by helping them in any way I can (volunteering or just a friend) it fills my heart with joy and yes, love for that person. When I give I give without strings attached. I was introduced to my second husband and I would be lying if I didn't admit that we were both attracted to each other, but I felt as if I'd known this man all my life. We dated and took things slow and easy getting to know each other's spirit. We laughed, had fun, shared our friends, discussed life in general and became each others best friend first! Of course sex is sharing the soul of each other and we took it seriously, but we never allowed sex to rule us and we have been there for each other for over 40 years (married to each other for 35 of those years.) Now here is the kicker. My husband is fighting for his life due to illness. We've stood strong together no matter what and both of us are fearless when it comes to each other. There is nothing on this earth that could stop us from protecting each other and our whole being goes into it. We look at each other during bad times and say to each, 'Babe, this is going to be a tough one, but we're not sputtering our way through it, we're going to go down in flames and they'll know WE existed.' When he's down and can't fight you bet I'm there and it's not fear of insecurity (again I'm very independent and have a good life ... not wealthy, but middle-class, fairly healthy, am a Christian and a believer of that faith because I've experienced the miracles of that faith) and when I'm down my husband is there to fight for me. It's a wonderful feeling although it sometimes can be exhausting. There is no secret, it's a matter of knowing some battles you will win and some you won't and if it's your time to leave this earth then the quality of time with your partner or loved one is of the most importance and when they are gone it's the good memories they leave in your heart and the strength you have built with each other goes on in yourself. I believe every person you allow into your life leaves an 'imprint' and we can take what we have learned from that person and become stronger. After the person passes away we can eventually smile at the very thought of them and know that they were part of what you are today. You smile at the world and proceed on with your life never forgetting your one and only true love. There is nothing either of us are afraid of and we are realists and know that our lives can't go on together forever. We face it, embrace it and enjoy each other while we can. Is our marriage perfect? Heck no and I wouldn't want it to be. We have our arguments, but have learned to respect each other enough to walk away to cool off and then sit down and discuss it like two human beings and take a little of each other's opinions and resolve the problem the best we can. We have much laughter in our marriage and we hug, kiss each other when times are down. Sometimes we just lay down on the rug with that huge TV cushion and cuddle and that's the best comfort knowing you have found someone that you respect, who respects you back and both are willing to fight anything in this world that tries to divide your souls. I've found it, but it takes work. I believe in love, but not the panting, excited type of love through sex we experience in youth. That's a small part of loving someone. Love IS like a flower that you nurture and watch it grow from a bud to full bloom and smell it's perfume, but, what lingers is the perfume surrounding the two that are in love and you can smell it, see it, feel it and through that you pass on that scent to other and it DOES make a difference and I'm here to say it's so.
What are tactics used to prepare for a nuclear attack?
The main strategies for nuclear attacks since the years following WWII has been deterrence, limitation, and non-proliferation. The Allies adopted a strategy called Mutual Assured Destruction (apt acronym MAD) which called for a massive retaliatory strike against the Soviet Union should any Allied nation be attacked by the USSR. In more recent years, Anti-Ballistic Missile technology has been rapidly coming online as a significant response to the threat of nuclear launches from terrorists or nations like North Korea or Iran. As missile and nuclear submarine development pushed ahead in the 60's, the United States and other NATO allies adopted a Strategic Deterrent stance known as the Nuclear or Strategic Deterrent Triad - Submarine, Bomber, and Ballistic Missile nuclear weapons delivery capability. In later years, mobile rail systems were added as part of the ICBM leg of the triad. In effect, an attacking nation could likely hit land based military targets that were stationary, and might get most of the bombers, but mobile underwater platforms difficult to detect were then, as now, virtually impossible to plan for. As a result, any attacking nation was deterred by knowing they'd be history even if they were to launch a first strike against a NATO nation successfully. That strategy worked and kept the world at relative peace for almost 50 years. During President Ronald Reagan's terms of office, he realized that the only way to remove the threat of nuclear weapons attack was to render their use ineffective. As a result, he initiated the Strategic Defense Initiative (SDI, or Star Wars), which was the first step toward abrogation of the 1972 Anti-Ballistic Missile Treaty signed between the U.S. and USSR, prohibiting both nations from developing ABM weapons. Though funding was cut by President Clinton, viable intercept weapons are now online, using airborne lasers, sea and airborne launched missiles, and other weapons to successfully intercept ICBM's in their boost phase where they are most vulnerable. Lasers are also fast enough to track and destroy incoming warheads. In 2002, the U.S. unilaterally withdrew from the ABM treaty. The breakup of the USSR has created a more dangerous world threatened by nuclear attack today more than ever. Nations like North Korea, which has successfully tested nukes, and Iran, are more than willing to use them for political purposes. While North Korea can and will likely be restrained by China, Iran won't, though it will likely be the target of a pre-emptive strike by Israel before it ever gets that far. Iran successfully test fired a missile capable of carrying a small warhead from a truck-based mobile launcher placed inside the hold of a Merchant ship. The ramifications are huge - a Merchant vessel could literally approach U.S. or another nation's shores as a Trojan Horse with a nuclear weapons' launch capability, with zero reaction time for dealing with it. Worse, a high-altitude burst causing EMP which isn't intercepted could send the U.S. back to the 1800's in an instant, rendering all of our non-shielded electronics (pretty much anything consumer and business related) useless. On the personal front, preparing for a nuclear attack is viable, but in the long term not really feasible depending on the level of attack and resulting fallout. Alpha radiation carried by nuclear fallout material is the biggest contaminant factor outside of the immediate blast area (Beta-Gamma radiation is the biggest factor locally, aside from incineration). Though Alpha is easy enough to deal with (it can only harm you if it is ingested into your body via saliva, blood, or into the lungs, and it can be washed off the skin), the contamination to water supplies and ground food sources (vegetation, animals) would ensure that life would be difficult at best for most. Many stockpiles of supplies have been kept for many years by all nations - food, medical supplies, water, etc., but it will never be enough. The U.S. Government has websites that tell you how to plan for an attack that are common sense - batteries, flashlights, radio, non-perishable food, bottled water, etc. for 3 days. Plans still exist on how to build bomb shelters and prepare long-term food stores, ventilation, waste and energy. In reality, for those of us who have worked with nuclear weapons and have planned for nuclear attacks, preparations for an attack are largely psychological in nature, much like escape equipment is on a submarine. Most submarines operate in depths that are too deep if they sink and would be crushed; likewise, the psychological effect of "preparedness" might make you think you can survive, but in reality living in a post-nuclear attack world would be a lot harder to deal with than most people can prepare for. It reminds me of the old "duck and cover" drills we used to have in school when I was a kid - sure, hiding under your desk is going to save you from the big, bad nuclear explosion. Not. The plain fact is that the government and civilians can plan, but eventually human nature will take over and anarchy will reign. The recent TV series "Jericho" is a good look into what many experts believe a post-attack world would be like for survivors, sans the political and governmental splitup. For years, there have been plans for governments to survive and communicate with the population in the event of nuclear attack - rest assured you'll probably still have to pay taxes after being nuked.
