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Confront her about it but not necessarily in an offensive/defensive way. Sure, that sounds right and you're mad, but if you attack her, she will try to weasel her way out of it or twist it around so that you're the one to blame and that doesn't get either of you anywhere. It will only make the situation worse. Tell her what you know (as in what you have proof of) as well as what you suspect and give her a chance to explain herself.
Ask her why she felt she needed to lie. Tell her that you are angry or hurt or upset that she lied and what she lied about. If it's something small and can be fixed, take a few minutes apart to cool down as heat of the moment arguments never get anywhere. Then talk about it and discuss ways you can make everything okay again. Don't lead her on into thinking you're not upset about it if you truly are. Don't try to actively make her feel bad or guilty about lying. By taking a calmer approach to the situation, she will most likely feel bad about it herself and be more open with you in the future.
If it's something you absolutely cannot forgive or very difficult to forgive, perhaps you both can research intervention help from a couple's therapist if you wish to remain together. if you don't, then perhaps separation is best. Either way, don't berate or belittle her in the process of speaking about the concerns. It will only make her throw up her defenses and nothing positive can come from that.
Discuss with her why she has lost some trust with you and ways she can earn the trust back, such as remaining honest with you in the future no matter how bad she thinks it might be. By seeing this example of how calmly and maturely you approach this lapse in judgment, she may be more apt to be completely honest with you later on anyway.
It is understandable for you to be angry with her for lying. But that's why it's imperative to take a step back and cool off before you confront her, and allow her to do the same after you confront her because it could be somewhat embarrassing for her to be caught. That will also make her defensive. And if at anytime during the process of discussion either of you feel yourself heating up to explode, just remember to take a breather so that both of you can put things into perspective.
Finally, if you do decide to forgive her, you can let her know that you may not forget about it and might have your guard up for a while... but if you decide to stick it out with her, don't throw it up in her face in the future. It can cause a lot of stress on the relationship.
let her know that youre upset about it and if she continuos tio lie to you that you will have zero trust in her and that you will have to part and send her home to her parents, perhaps she can start school over again and learn that a persoon that lies is pretty much rotten to the core
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∙ 14y agoask 4 forgive ness
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honestly, all she wants to know is if she can trust you again. figure out why you lied to her. dig deep to find out:
did you enjoy talking to her? did that enjoyment make you feel guilty? did you want to hide that guilt from her cause you were ashamed?
you may also want to ask yourself, "was it worth lying about?" i mean to say, was the conversation something you could share with your wife? if so, then why lie in the first place?
if you were flirting/cheating, then figure out if you really want the relationship with your wife. good luck!
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∙ 12y agoi would have a talk with him to be absolutely sure and then i don't know what the hell to do.
Ask him and find out what is going on. If you feel he is lying to you, your intuition may be right.
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∙ 12y ago- When you catch your husband lying then try to get him to face up to it to you. Hopefully you have proof of his lying and if you do show it to him or, tell him where you got the information from. Even with proof if he tries to say he is not lying let him know that if he does not stop lying; mature and learn to communicate with you better that the marriage will not last.
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Never cheated on wife so why do you lie?
You don't have to cheat to lie to your wife. Some individuals may have come from a dysfunctional family where they had to lie for fear of a beating, while some people lie because they do not feel their lives are as exciting as others so they tend to dramatize what happens in their lives. People that lie are often caught at lying so it would be to your best interest to seek out a good psychologist to find out why you feel the need to lie to your wife.
What do you do when your wife lies about where she has been?
You had better be sure she is lying. If you have caught her in and out and out lie then you need to use your communication skills and calmly sit down with her and let her know you caught her in a lie and you want to know why. The two of you hold the key to what is going on in your relationship and why she feels the need to lie and communication skills is the only way you will find out for sure.
Should you tell the wife you had an affair with her husband?
No. Let sleeping dogs lie.
Should the mistress tell the wife of the affair?
No, keep cheating and dont get caught.
Monica Christina Littrell?
i heard about, that she should be brians wife...but that seems to be a big lie!
If wife is caught in a lie and denies it until proved that she lied then breaks down and wants to work thing out should she be trusted?
Well that all depends on what the lies she as says are. But if the lie is something that can not be forgiven ,then don't trust her but if the lie isn't so bad ,work it out. But the truth is shouldn't people always get a second chance in life? So you can trust her or not, but the choice is yours.
What should you do his family is contacting me?
Maybe you should take a step back and ask youself if he is being honest with you. If he lied to his wife, he will lie to you. Maybe the family is contacting you to see if stories match. End your relationship, stop the contact and see how he reacts. If he really loves his wife, it won't bother him, if he really want's to be with you, he will do everything to get you back. But, is he worth it? Remember, if he can lie to his wife he can lie to you.
What are the best excuses when you get caught cheating?
Lie about it.
What are the release dates for Lie Not to Your Wife - 1912?
Lie Not to Your Wife - 1912 was released on: USA: 28 September 1912
What should a person do for a friend who always gets caught in telling a lie?
There isn't anything that you can do directly but this person will have to address their lying issues and in order for them to stop getting caught would be not to lie in the first place. Do what is best for you and be careful as you could be in the wrong place at the wrong time with this person and get caught up in their lies that could cause problems for you.
If wife is caught in a lie and denies it until proved that she lied then brakes down and wants to work things out should she be trusted?
id have to say that's a hard one, but what id do is let it go and hope that she wont do again if u catch her in another lie, tell someone close and ask for help but don't divorce her oh please don't especially if u have kids and if u do have kids get them to ask the wife to stop lying
What happens when the narcissist's get caught in there lies?
They lie some more....the N I'm married to will lie about the lie he lied to cover up the lie about the lie he lied....and then lie again... New answer-They say you are having too much imagination and then they lie again explaining the other lies with new lies....mine told me i should go ahead and write a fiction book ....
