What should you do if your boyfriend still hasn't gotten his divorce even though you've been together for seven years and he asked you to marry him two years ago?

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7 years is a long time to be with someone and them still be married. Before you get married to him, he must get a divorce. Just sit him down and talk with him about going through with his divorce. He might be scared and I don't blame him. Good luck and God Bless:) =Answer= I'm not buying he's scared to get married again, but he certainly has been burned and hurt. The fact you have been together for 7 years is no different than being married. It's time for him to get that divorce (also check out the laws of limitations on how long you have to not live with your spouse before you can get an automatic divorce. It differs in every State.) Scared or not he has no problem having a relationship with you and getting what he needs without any responsibility attached. It's time he grew up, got the information (with your help) regarding a divorce and either commit to you or move on. I left my first husband when I was almost 25. It was an abusive relationship on his part and I tried to fix things, but it didn't work so I ran while the running was good. I lived on my own after that, but I did file for divorce immediately. It was difficult because he didn't want the divorce, but I persisted and got it! I took time out to get to know myself and what my strengths and weakness' were. I don't really like the idea of divorce, but one should never put up with abusive behavior from any partner. Start communicating with your b/f and come to some common ground. Let him know you'll help him by getting information regarding the laws of limitation on married spouses being apart and also help with the legalities of the divorce and that he isn't in this alone. If he's hiding behind "I'm scared because my first marriage didn't work out" then it's a cop-out. They say once you fall off the saddle you dust yourself off and get right back on. Same goes for life!