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2006-08-09 07:41:54
2006-08-09 07:41:54

I know you are asking what you can do to make sure it does not hurt as much physically, but there is a much greater hurt that can result from having sex at your age. In fact there are two. The first is that you could become pregnant like my niece did. If that happens, you would have two choices: end the life of the child by having an abortion or have the child. Either choice will change your life forever. I know if my niece was writing this, she would tell you to wait to have sex until you are older. She was with a boy that she loved and that loved her, but they ended up going their separate ways. At 13, life has a way of changing very quickly, and having sex for the first time is a major decision. When my niece returned to school after having her daughter, nothing was the same. She ended up leaving her high school and finished by attending adult education classes. Her social life was ruined, she had the responsibility of raising her child, and she lost out on her own childhood. Okay, so you could use contraceptives or have "protected" sex. That doesn't guarantee that you will not become infected with a sexually transmitted disease. Even if you don't get a STD or become pregnant, the chances that you are going to stay with the boy you love now are very slim. If your life goes the way most do, you will have several boyfriends by the time you graduate from high school. If you have sex with every boy you love from now until then, it will most likely be 5, 6, 7 or more. I know you are thinking that won't happen because you love the boy you are with now. Only time will tell, and loving a boy certainly doesn't mean that you have to have sex with him, especially at the young age of 13. Before you decide, please consider the greater pain that you could cause yourself than just the physical pain of "the first time." Deb *I totally agree 100% with Deb. At 13 you are simply a child yourself and have so much of your life ahead of you. Sex is suppose to be a beautiful experience and not one that is cheapened and makes you feel dirty inside and out. NEVER let anyone coerce you into having sex too early. You are in total control of yourself even at 13. If your boyfriend won't wait around until you are ready to have a sexual relationship then he has no idea what love truly is. You haven't even begun to consider safe sex, or the diseases you can get by unprotected sex such as Herpes, AIDS, HIV and on and on it goes. I think you're one smart girl and have been thinking of this problem and know truly in yourself you weren't really ready for sex. Listen to Deb because she said it all in a nut shell. Marcy


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The one possible way to do this is break up .But you should not hurt someone you love. If you hurt them ,you will also get hurt.

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if you have to hurt its mostlikely not true love. true love is exactly the opposite you should be happy Answer Because sometimes you cannot be together.

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Its What is Love? By Haddaway. Haddaway's What is Love "What is love Baby don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more Baby don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more What is love" Kinda repetitive :)

not that i know of. my cats love to hunt and they dont get hurt by it. it should be fine.

Hell yes! You shouldn't date them in the first place if you don't love them. Answer After two years, you definitely should know you like them and get along. As for love, that is the spark that makes the relationship pop. Time is not always a measure for love, though. If you have it you will be sure--if you have the question, maybe not.

because first you think that person is your world and you think that he/she will never leave you. And than they do.

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If a person looses love in a relationship you should tell him / her how you feel. Being honest is what you should have so others will not be hurt.

If she starts to like you then you can. It is most likely she might hurt you again but if you still love her then i say go for it. You should be prepared to get hurt though.

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they need the love Answer I don't think we intend to hurt the ones we love. We are human and make mistakes and sometimes the ones we love may get hurt by those mistakes. If they didn't love us they wouldn't get hurt because our actions would not effect them emotionally.

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Well, they never will hurt there children but in the other hand it's affection and love i guess. But if they do hurt their children then probably you should separate them or consult a vet.

you should never love any one gurl Fran its a bad idea they only hurt you n wanna have sex trust me im 10

You should know first. If you end up in a flirty relationship. It may be hurtful to "him" to get out of once your close.

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Good friendship has love in it. Good love has friendship in it. don't hurt your friend for love don't hurt your lover for friendship

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